i'm not writing a dni list because i think they're often more about performance than safety. people use them to signal morality or boundaries, but they usually end up vague, contradictory, or just alienating. you never really know who you're interacting with and a list with 30 bullet points won't change that. so here's a bit more about me and what you should know before interacting: i'm into weir... » Continue Reading
hai hai, my name is dev or vesper, i'm 18, from southern california!! preygendered faggot, occasional dyke, toyboy, girlfailure. anarcho-commie freak. i like weird music, weird movies, weird people. hobbies include playing instruments, DJing, going to shows, collecting physical media & stuffed animals, writing, sewing, and giving myself piercings. fav shows: south park (only show i watched for 3 ... » Continue Reading
porn addiction, in the strict medical sense, isn't real. and confusing it with actual substance addictions makes it harder for people to get the right kind of support. for most of the 20th century, addiction meant chemical dependence. alcohol, nicotine, opioids, etc. create physica » Continue Reading
starting to think half of y'all don't even like music. you like the aesthetic. the look. the "vibe". some of you need to stand in a dingy-ass venue for 3 hours, get elbowed in the ribs, and almost lose your shoe in a pit before you say you're punk/emo/scene again. half of y'all are too young to get in anyway. watching tiktoks and shopping at hot topic isn't a subculture. posting blurry selfies wit... » Continue Reading
not a maternal figure ... a 30-something-year-old woman that calls me nice names and gets weirdly territorial. she makes me soup and gaslights me a little. then i fold her laundry wrong on purpose and she sends me back to dad's house » Continue Reading
he bought me a blue powerade before he came home after work. i was upset but he hugged me and said nice things. i sat in his lap while we watched tv and he drank beer. (bleghhh beer mouth when we kissed) but we're going to the mall tomorrow i'm excited for that :3 » Continue Reading
he helped me cut, bleach, tone, and dye my hair these past few days!! i get overwhelmed with sectioning, mixing, gloves and timing stuff, but it was easy with his help. he even rinsed it out for me and made sure we didn't burn my skin or fry my hair. we went thrifting today and i got a new shirt and DVD/CD player. dad's at work now but tomorrow we're going to the mall together so i can get new sho... » Continue Reading