i'm not writing a dni list because i think they're often more about performance than safety. people use them to signal morality or boundaries, but they usually end up vague, contradictory, or just alienating. you never really know who you're interacting with and a list with 30 bullet points won't change that. so here's a bit more about me and what you should know before interacting: i'm into weir... » Continue Reading
hai hai, my name is dev or vesper, i'm 18, from southern california!! preygendered faggot, occasional dyke, toyboy, girlfailure. anarcho-commie freak. i like weird music, weird movies, weird people. hobbies include playing instruments, DJing, going to shows, collecting physical media & stuffed animals, writing, sewing, and giving myself piercings. fav shows: south park (only show i watched for 3 ... » Continue Reading
boyfriend and i went to flea market and yard sale on saturday :3 we got so much cool stuff!! i got DVDs (season one of dexter, popeye, 22 cartoon classics), bucky the beaver and claude the crab beanie babies, and zebra print key knife. we share anyways i'm just putting them in categories based off who wanted them. the torch lighter, dab pick, carb cap, and mexican candy we both wanted. the camera » Continue Reading
last night i got really overwhelmed and was having a hard time regulating. instead of trying to "be a grown up" my boyfriend just handled it and calmed me down. like he's my dad. it's kinda the best thing ever. i was crying so hard and he helped me calm down and pack a bowl and smoke and asked me if i want him to be more like a dad sometimes. he does a lot for me and i really think of him that way... » Continue Reading
just curious about people's thoughts on this topic, what do you consider an okay age gap? i'm talking about relationships between adults (18+). sometimes people get weird about my relationship because i'm 18 and my boyfriend is 24, and it made me wonder what's considered "okay" to most people. » Continue Reading
for those that don't know, tme and tma are acronyms for "transmisogyny exempt" and "transmisogyny affected." so, tme = trans people who don't experience transmisogyny and tma = trans people who experience transmisogyny. so far, i've only seen these labels on tumblr and i'm not sure if this discourse is popular anywhere else but here's my take on it. people need to stop acting like transmisogyny i... » Continue Reading
going to see team nonexistent play later today with my boyfriend :3 super excited they're a great band!!! will post outfit pics before we leave » Continue Reading
you pull me close, but hold on too tight i play dead as your body blocks the light your lips taste of chloroform instead of glycerin tonight and i lose myself to the long kiss goodnight you put me in a place that warps my sight you put me in a position that drowns the fight i yield to you, all bark no bite and i lose myself to th » Continue Reading
i see people hating on christians an odd amount on here? which like . yeah typical for atheist teens and sometimes warranted (when people are using their religion to spread hate) but if people aren't hurting you or trying to coerce you into converting why are you hating . saw someone complaining about gay christians ??? why do you care so much it has no effect on you whatsoever . religion is a per... » Continue Reading
lately, i've noticed people blurring the line between fiction media and real harm. specifically, calling fictional work CSAM. i want to be clear: i am a victim of CSAM/CSEM. i know firsthand what it means when an actual child is exploited, recorded, and commodified. the impact of that is lifelong and shapes how i move through the world. that's why it frustrates me so much when the term "CSAM" is t... » Continue Reading