you came uninvited with promises of fire and flesh and left nothing but memories i can't remember wanting i gave you room thinking you were the answer to a question i hadn't yet learned to ask but you made your home in places i didn't offer left fingerprints on the walls and dirt on the floors i scrubbed myself clean of every touch every taste unt » Continue Reading
if you loved me, then you would have respected my boundaries if you loved me, then you wouldn't have claimed to be the victim when i stated my hurts if you loved me, then you wouldn't have flipped the blame every time i stood up for myself if you loved me, then your last message to me would not have been "clearly you didn't want me to communicate properly. good luck" if you loved me, then you woul... » Continue Reading
what did i feel in my body when i sensed something was wrong? - my head hurt - my heart was racing - shortness of breath - difficulty regulating - responded calmly - told myself that i was in the wrong despite communicating healthily what would safety, respect and love actually feel like? - validating my feelings - apologizing for hurting me - respect my boundaries - accountability » Continue Reading
you must be soft, but not too soft. you shouldn't be so weak. you must be strong, but not too strong. nobody likes a show-off. you must be pretty, but don't try so hard. who are you trying to show off for? you must be smart, but don't be so loud about it. where is your sense of humility? you must be honest, but not that honest. no one asked for your life story. you must be confident, but not that ... » Continue Reading
i think i'm experiencing a slow burn, but not the romance kind. the kind where you are slowly phased out from someone's life until you are completely gone. i try to match your energy because you've told me you're stressed and going through a lot right now. truthfully, i can't deal with the complete change of personality. you no longer speak the same way to me, you no longer ask me to hang out and ... » Continue Reading
it isn’t normal to fight almost every day, is it? it feels like i upset someone new every time. is it me? what’s wrong with me? i don’t try to cause trouble. i just want to explain what’s going on in my life and adhere to others’ boundaries. » Continue Reading
you seem to know exactly what and who you want, and here i am confused and overwhelmed. does anything make sense in time? what is the timeline for healing? am i just creating conflict as a way of distracting myself from the grief i've yet to deal with? am i using her death as an excuse to be a bad person and make bad decisions and hurt others just to run back and say "it's because i'm not healed y... » Continue Reading