Thing I wrote months ago to help w healing <33

*Quick explanations on how to start healing!*

For trauma in general you should try:

- Recognize n acknowledge the event 

- Accept support the best you can

- Practice self care the best you can manage

- spend time alone w yourself n your thoughts

- try n participate in hobbies or find new ones

- do journaling: write goals feelings n any progress that was made even if you slipped

- don't shame yourself for "a lack of progress" you're trying n that's amazing

- try n open up(slowly if needed) to ppl you trust n don't be discouraged if they can't help

- progress isn't always up it can be up n down

- affirm yourself positively n self encourage!!

- spend more time w whoever makes you feel better you don't have to do much jus have fun

- remember this is a hard journey n you're amazing n brave for trying to get better

- listen to criticism but in a healthy way

- some ppl are jus negative n you don't have to listen to them if you're worried ask multiple ppl yk abt it n see what they think

-know some hard decisions will be made

-seek support

For love you should try:

- recognizing if it's trauma bonding or love

- understanding love is hard but you don't have to force yourself to put up w everything

- try n not be toxic n communicate w each other the best you can

- find your attachment style n encourage your partner to do so as well it can help

- breaks are okay but if you take too many in the relationship then maybe consider ending the relationship w each other

- not every relationship is the same explore what works for the two of you

- talk abt issues w close ones, don't be afraid

- don't completely change yourself so they'll like you that isn't love

- understand you can be blinded by love even if you don't think you are

- not all relationships will work out n that's ok

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For self love you should try:

- positive affirmations every day

- being proud of any good progress

- not shaming yourself for small things

- understand you're worthy of love n you matter despite past experiences

- do things for you but don't be overly selfish

- ask other for reassurance if needed

- understand others don't dislike you but instead may simply be busy; they care for you but they can't attend to your every need all the time

- you're valid n your worries matter

- do things you like or seek new things to do

- perhaps read a bit your brain deserves it

- think of yourself from your perspective n others' of possible n if it's too positive or negative then ask others abt their opinions

- loving yourself can be hard but do your best

- your body is normal n awesome you shouldn't harm it it's doing its best to care for you

- you don't have to look conventionally attractive someone out there likes you for you n looks shouldn't be the only reason someone like you

- listen to songs that make you happy more

- workout for your own enjoyment

- be online less if it damages your mental health n physical health it isn't worth it

- spend time outside for an hour or more

- make the best of your situation

- you're alive! Be proud! Living is tough n you've made it so far, hopefully smthn great will happen soon

- compare yourself to others less you're hurting yourself by doing so usually

- remember to humble yourself

- heal your inner child

- be cringe! You don't have to always be boring or worried over ppl's opinions!

- remember you have a massive impact on ppl's lives despite what you think. You matter a lot more than yk 

- be a good person it'll help the world n then help you in turn! Isn't that a treat?

- try n relax every now n then

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That's all I wrote but if this helps u awesome!!!!!! :D I luv helping ppl

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