Day 1 of Improving myself until i get a girlfriend

Let me preface, I'm not desperate or anything. It's just that with a topic as vast as self improvement, how does one determine an end goal, usually on tiktok I see people tying self improvement to things that are not correlated like that guy who works out everyday until he finishes One Piece or the guy who does 1 push up until he gets a gf. I wanna do The same but I wanted a goal that was somewhat correlated to self improvement. Like I'm working on  the qualities that a girl would find attractive ig. Also my parents keep asking, when I'm getting a gf and its like dude I'm 17 but whatever. I am pan but now is not the time to think about boys, not in my homophobic household. Anyway, I'm doing this until I get a girlfriend and I'll probably keep these habits after I get a girlfriend too. 

Next, I wanted this to be something slightly different. Most self improvement content is kinda conservative in the sense that it enforces unhealthy masculinity yk. Like all the Jordan Peterson stuff, the concept of self improvement is so heavily tied to masculinity and what it means to be a real man or whatever, it's stupid. On the other side of thing, there tends to be this "that girl" trend where people women work to be like their own dream girl and that's cool, I kinda don't like the whole capitalist vibe it has though but I don't actually have a problem with it, I think women are aware that capitalism and the patriarchy go hand in hand so I'm not worried about that. Self improvement on the man's side can be really toxic though and I'm not a man, however, I have been one and I want to have a less toxic and more left leaning perspective on self improvement. So, I have a few categories for my improvement and you can join along but I think self improvement should be personalized and focus on your areas. These are categories that help me where I am lacking.

Reading

I do debating, I mention that every blog post but like reading is important for that, I also want to Improve my writing so reading is necessary for that. I'm currently reading The Trial by Franz Kafka and I read a chapter of that book. It's interesting, I'm hooked, I'm curious.

Exercise 

I'm not a very fit person, I go to an all boys school with athletes and bodybuilders and sportsmen but I've never focused on getting stronger, I've focused on getting a thinner physique. I hate to say it but imagine a twink, like a thin, small twink and that is my build. I don't want to build muscle, I've just been slacking with exercise recently and I'm getting a belly and starting to look like a man. I hate looking like man, I want my physique to be slim and twink like yk. So I did a quick 5 minute ab workout for starters

Diet

Not like a diet, but I had trouble eating for a while back in the day and it's still difficult sometimes to like stomach food and stuff so this is just here so I can get my required food intake every day. This is why I'm so adamant on not starving yourself. I've seen a lot of people post blogs on here asking if they should starve themselves and DONT. I started getting trouble with my eating habits back 5 years ago and I'm still struggling to get back on track. Today, I failed at this. I didn't have breakfast and only had a slice of toast for lunch, I promise I usually eat more, I'm gonna eat a big plate of curry rn actually.

Learning

This should be studying but I'm on vacation again so I'm gonna learn some side stuff instead of school work. Today, I learned how to analyze classic or difficult books because my debate coach wants me to read Aristotle's essays on rhetoric which might be difficult to understand so I tried learning how to develop my understanding of classic literature.

Writing 

I wrote a review of Matilda on Tumblr and I'm not too proud of it but I am getting better at reviewing stuff, if I can just make my thoughts coherent and understandable to readers. I've done it before but haven't been able to reach that standard recently.

Hygiene 

This my skincare, deodorant, shaving maybe, bathing. I did all of those, I usually struggle with Hygiene when I'm on vacation but I'm off to a good start

Cultural enrichment 

This is just relaxing because to relax I watch movies, tv and listen to music. It's important that I try and consume a different piece of media or pull something out of something new I've already consumed. This is also to improve rhetoric, I can use movies and TV and stuff like that as a rhetorical device but also to better integrate myself into conversations. I watched when Harry met Sally today and for an example of rhetoric I could use this movie as an opening for maybe debating about whether men and women can have platonic relationships or I could use this movie in a conversation to like reference it or whatever. It's also for my enjoyment, I do need to watch a movie every so often.

Anyway, this was day 1. A good start but I can do better and I hope you all enjoy this journey. Thank you all so much for reading.