03 | DATE STORY TIME 2

I talked about my first date, now im going to talk about my date with a furry...my friends will NEVER let me live this down. 

This was my 3rd(?) date ever. took place last year around fall.

to be clear I dont hate furries, idc what they do. I actually saw this guy's fursona on his Hinge profile and didnt care. He looked cute. he was about my height, a bit chubby, not super masculine, and he had a passion for his hobby. He also has severe and i mean SEVERE adhd, but we'll talk about that later.

So we met on hinge and we chatted for a few days. He told me about his fursona and i was just like "aww cute" (i dont actualy think its that cute, his passion is what's cute). We set up a movie date because my school was hosting a free movie event. We met and it was super awkward, he was staring directly at my boobs. To be fair the shirt i was wearing definitely highlighted my boobs but he didnt have to GLARE at it. I remembered another time when a guy glared at my boobs and then i found out he was autistic, so i just let it slide. I thought furry guy could be neurodivergent as well, so i left it alone

We got to the movie too early so we went to get some boba tea. He had brought a plushie shark to the movie and had me carry it to the boba shop. it was cute but i usually never touch anything cloth from strangers for fear of lice or bed bugs. We sat down, payed separately, then talked. Thats when i found out that he has ADHD. we chatted for a bit then went to the movie.

During the movie he kept getting up and walking around. I really cant understand why. My conclusion was that it was linked to the ADHD. He also smelled like absolute garbage. We sat close and i got a whiff of him. I take personal hygiene very seriously and since i go to a STEM school, i come across alot of boys who literally just dont think showering is a priority. I looked past that thought (for some reason).

After the movie we hugged..and at that very moment, a group of his friends showed up. I saw their reactions to me hugging him and they were shocked. I felt sooo uncomfy. He introduced me and then walked me down the block to my dorm. We then parted ways

Now you might think the story ends here because i obviously didnt like him much, but no, we had a second date.

We met up for dinner after our classes a couple days later and he still smelled, thats how i knew it was a re-ocurring problem. He had offered to "snuggle" back at his place and i was like "i dont touch strangers." i know that seems cold but i have to be straightforward or else i can easily be coerced into things. And i did not want to touch him.

We ate then walked around some tunnels that we have on campus. He thought i didnt know about them but I literally live by the tunnels, i use them everyday. We then sat down and at that point i wanted everything to end but i didnt know how to say it. 

When im uncomfy it shows so much. I was giving one word answers and i didnt wanna walk around with him. I try to make people feel slightly unsettled when i want to leave a convo, its involuntary and stems from anxiety. so I started complaining about how i dont have many friends and how i hate everyone and what did he do in response???? he propped up his phone and made me watch a 16min video on how to make friends. Yes it's sweet but on a date...?? i was sooo bored. we then talked about LGBTQ things and he told me he was Bi, which doesnt bother me. I then told him i was asexual and the LOOK ON HIS FACE!! he was bamboozled. "why do you go on dating apps if youre ace then?" he asked.

Now, asexuality is a spectrum. some people dont like intimacy and dating, some love it. It's about your SEXUAL attraction, not romantic. It takes alot of trust for me to be comfortable with intimacy but i do like it. And i love romance. I didn't bother explaining that to him and i instead used it as a way out. I said " yes idk, i thought maybe im not ace and i wanted to try something. I dont think we're compatible judging by what you told me earlier. i think i really am ace" and he agreed. then we walked out and i went home

I texted him the next day and he tried to invite me out again and i said that he deserves someone much more compatible. He said we can still be friends, which is what everyone says when they dont want to end a date on bad terms. 

I havent talked to him since. I still have him on discord tho, everything took place on discord, we didnt exchange numbers...

anyways thats the last time im too lenient with my standards.