grief.

i'm not sure if i will ever get over it and i don't know when i need to stop publicly grieving. when does it become annoying to still grieve and when does the grieving 'grace period' come to an end. it's been five years. should i be over it by now? should i finally move on?


am i allowed to be upset forever? am i allowed to miss him? is that even 'allowed' anymore? it's been so long i don't remember what he sounds like talking anymore, i feel like i have some sort of privilege because he had a 'famous' career and videos of him rapping are out there but i can't bring myself to listen to them. i can't bring myself to look at photos of him for too long. i love and miss him but i'm scared my grieving period is over and i can't get upset over his face or voice anymore. i still have the last book we read together, even though i'm 17 and the book is made for children, i feel like i have a right to still own the book, even though i can't bring myself to open it. what if it loses its importance to me when i open it? what if it stops being 'our book' because i read it alone...


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Nao<3

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You are allowed to grieve forever grieving somewhat brings me comfort because im still remembering the good memories ive had with them I cry yes but at least it's cleansing me feel free to choose what you want to do with book but if you feel like it wont be "yalls" anymore then dont either way it is totally valid what you are going through


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thank you so much!! your comment means a lot, i always felt dumb for still grieving after so many years but i feel like now i know i’m allowed to grieve forever i will start feeling less dumb and insecure

xosage

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Not dumb at all hun your emotions are yours for you to feel so if anyone tells you to stop grieving don't listen to them and keep doing you

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