whining about butch femme dearth

why is it that when i post on Lex seeking butches, it attracts everyone but butches?? why is it that tiktok is an acclaimed lesbian dating app, but you can find more myopic discourse than active butch/femme play & courtship?? i am in an ultimate frustration. i am 21, living at home, and wanting nothing more than to sit in a park and do things with butches i can't post about on spacehey. argh. i need to move into the city so i can go to the bars, but until then - ARGH.