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dating rant: my gf, i love her, but holy shit is she stubborn when it comes to her opinions. she is so arguementative for someone who preaches confrontation is bad. people like to play a game of unspoken chess, and when someone’s playing along a different game they get pissed or think your evil. I just cant sometimes. its tiring, and i dont wanna break up, but its like. ugh. I dont want her to change her mind, i dont want to control her, just the way she expresses her critical judgements of my character can hurt sometimes, and its not really like, a criticism, just an insult? i dont mind hearing it, its just draining. and I dont know if im the bad guy cuz i ask to hear, but its just. a lot. and i wanted something light, but kinda made our relationship into something bigger. and i dont jnow why i did that. maybe cuz i stll wanted to be close friends? i feel like its getting harder to be both.
And also, she likes to make these edgy rude jokes about things that are “distasteful” in this really pretentious way and i dont like it. something I wanted to send and havnt yet:
“ sometimes you fuck up your jokes to me and hurt my feelings and sometimes i fuck up my jokes and hurt your feelings, and i dont beieve in a narritive that “your always super funny and im just sensitive but im an asshole when it comes to edgy hurtful jokes and your the victem”. i think that sometimes your “funny” jokes are a lil raw, and that your criticism of my raw jokes feels a bit hypocritical. yeah, maybe im shit at jokes and hurt people, but you hurt me too. and maybe either both of us need to lay off on the mean jokes, or both of us need t grow some thicker skin. i prefer the former”
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BRA1N-E4TER
You're absolutely justified here, setting boundaries in your relationship and in general as a person. I'd say go ahead and message her how you feel, and how you want to fix this. Cause hell, communication is key here. Goodluck with your girlfriend and I hope it goes over smoothly ^^ all you can do is express this discomfort. If she doesn't respect it, or take it seriously. Keep pressing this boundary, and if she cares enough. She'll listen to you and understand.
thank you for the support
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