Update: I talked to my mom about the idea of coming out to the whole class. Well, she didn't have the best reaction, but I expected it. She cried a little and ended our conversation with "I'm tired and have a headache," and that was it. I'm a little sad now, but it's okay. Well, I did what my school counselor said, I talked to my mom, and now I'm going to see what the next steps are. I'm not 100% ready to tell the class yet; I'll wait a while. After I'm completely ready, it'll be like coming out to a parent, haha. At least now I can go to the disabled bathroom so I don't have to see girls if I go into the women's bathroom or suffer homophobia when I go into the men's bathroom. I'm happy about that, and it's such a small thing, but it makes me so happy. Well, I'll just say this: I DON'T HATE MY MOM. She's cool and loving to me, and I know that deep down, despite all this transphobia... And because of the fear of someone hurting me, so please don't hate her, she's a sweetheart to me and does her best to give me the best life possible. Anyway, that's it, I'll bring updates on what will happen in the next few days. That's all, bye!
I know it sounds crazy, but I'm still thinking about it. It's not something I'm sure about, so relax, I'm just still thinking. And I feel very erased being called "dead name." I wanted to be seen as Alan and not "dead name," but you have a great point.
I see where you're coming from now, but I think long term, it's better to get called ur dead name for a bit instead of getting bullied and getting called ur dead name PERMANENTLY because of it. My advice, taken from my trans friends, is just have yourself a lil friend group and wait until graduation. The people don't have to know about your life, and when the transition goes well, and you have your dream body, your appearance will speak for you and not your mouth. Patience is key
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Palmtreezz
why would you want to tell your whole clasS??????
It's just an idea, don't worry :P
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pesterchoom
Why on earth would you tell the entire class? Are you begging to get bullied? Just tell a group of people who fw you and move on
I know it sounds crazy, but I'm still thinking about it. It's not something I'm sure about, so relax, I'm just still thinking. And I feel very erased being called "dead name." I wanted to be seen as Alan and not "dead name," but you have a great point.
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I see where you're coming from now, but I think long term, it's better to get called ur dead name for a bit instead of getting bullied and getting called ur dead name PERMANENTLY because of it. My advice, taken from my trans friends, is just have yourself a lil friend group and wait until graduation. The people don't have to know about your life, and when the transition goes well, and you have your dream body, your appearance will speak for you and not your mouth. Patience is key
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okay, thanks ^^
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