When a demisexual marries an allosexual.... *ADULT CONTENT, DISCUSSION OF SEX AND SEXUALITY*

When we started dating, my son wasn't yet a year old, and I felt lucky to find someone to be there for my son, to be perfectly honest. We agreed from the beginning that our relationship would be open, and that we would have sex with other people while together. We agreed to have sex at least once a day, as I knew that that was my minimum. By that time, I had had a number of partners over the years, and thought that I understood my sexuality. I didn't know that I was demisexual, or even that the term existed. I also didn't realise at the time how little he cared for hugs or other physical affection, where I would spend an entire day snuggling someone I love, if they let me.

When we got married, it was a quick legal matter done by a JOP - no spirituality involved. It was mainly to make it easier for him to adopt my son quickly. My son's bio-dad has never showed a solid interest in my son (due to his own personal issues), but I was afraid of him. I was also accidentally pregnant with my second child (by my husband).

As time went by, and we got together with other couples, I began to realize that I couldn't orgasm with strangers. I wanted to participate, and the idea of it was exciting, but I couldn't cum, and felt judged (by the other couples) and broken for not being able to do so.

I recently discovered demisexuality, and that's where I fit. I require a mental connection in order to enjoy sex. There are only a very few people with whom I've actually orgasmed. Those that I have cum with, I've cum A LOT with. Like, a lot. I prefer sex at *least* once a day, preferably a few times anyway. Being demisexual, that is pretty much impossible for me. My husband gets ass whenever, but it's only once every month or so, usually. He can't do it even once a day with me, and that's frustrating and makes me feel undesirable, even though I know that it's just a difference in sexual appetite. 

I need a close friend/partner to at least snuggle with, if not make outs, etc. But they have to be someone whom I know and love.

So that's my predicament. Any *constructive* comments or suggestions?