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pretty much the title, as far as i understand about situationships, it's just schrodinger's relationship right? Like you act as if you're in a relationship, but don't really bring it up cause it's like Schrodinger's Cat on if if you actually are or not right?
I hear them in pretty negative conversations as well, so I don't really get why people get involved in them if they get hurt by it?
Also I am someone who has never been in an relationship, talking phase or any intimate thing (one day, one day), so sorry if I'm simplifying stuff or misunderstanding it
what is a situationship and why do others keep getting involved if they're so bad?
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i get this feeling that people in it are in denial of being in it? like there's this whimsical nature that comes from being with someone and being a couple that naturally becomes one in an unspoken way, as if explicitly saying "will you be my partner?" somehow breaks the spell of that 'movie' relationship everyone dreams about.
i, personally, don't believe in "situationships"; i think its a silly term.
if you are going on dates and spending time with each other, you're literally just dating. people hide behind that label because it gives the allowance to date other people without the strange shame that comes with admitting that. but if you're honest about your intention and just communicate what you want to get out of the situation, there shouldn't be a problem unless one person is lying about what they want or aren't even sure of what they want in the moment but still want the intimacy.
people need to decide what they are dating for, what they expect out of a person, and what they want from the relationship and be honest about that. if the other person gets scared off by basic communication, then they probably aren't ready for any kind of relationship at all because it shows immaturity and a little manipulative.
my diagnosis is people are desperate for a connection and go all in all at once without restraint, creating this culture of people thinking they can get the same experience from someone else or someone better, while also kind of ruining the point of dating entirely.
overall, its depressing, and i dont think people voluntarily end up in one, but being selective to some level with who you date and showing some restraint with the energy you give them from your heart should be everyone's own responsibility.
(take this with a grain of salt)
-princess wont get played
that makes sense, not sure why i didnt think that they can just happen without it being noticed, though like you said them seeing it like a movie and/or being desperate probably is why they don't try to confirm it
though its just confusing cause isnt basic communication like one of the most basic and strongest foundations for relationships, plus also just save you so much more time? cause even with those potential reasons, it just doesn't make sense, you'll either get hurt or later on cause of that lack of communication
eitherway i hope i dont willingly let myself get into one or stay in one
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