genuienly, how can some people suffer in silence?

1764648443

From personal experience, it has to do with my own fear and it being incredibly hard to open up, though this is conditioning from a traumatic experience that I am still recovering from. Brains can be wired to force yourself to not speak up or tell others about what you're feeling or going through. This does not apply to everyone, though. You can only suffer in silence for so long until it becomes completely unbearable.

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1764639775

Honestly I will say that I personally have been talking to people less and less about my problems because whenever I go through a low period I feel absolutely shity confiding in someone who is not my therapist because Its like im... dumping my problems on them . So usually I often vent to myself by writing stuff out either in my notes app or even in a journal tbh. It helps me clear my head.

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1764628745

In my experience it's just hard to open up. I don't trust more than two people with knowledge of my troubles and I just don't want to be a bother to anyone which makes opening up even harder. Gotta push myself to my limits til I'm open with my own boyfriend. In truth it is suffocating but what can ya do :c

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1764523759

as someone with like 2 irl friends i either go online or suffer in silence. really thats it. its not working out great though ill tell you that

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1764506012

Same here!! My friends rarely talk about their problems or downside as I do too... They always say they're good. I'm like, am I too honest? or am I not mature enough

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1764386430

dude this blog design is super cool... i know ppl that don't talk about their problems and instead it festers and overflows and builds to the point it becomes self inflicted. i think if you're not willing to talk about your problems you will self destruct at some point and i think some ppl like that a lot.

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1764233433

for me it's usually that I don't really know how to put some of my more pressing issues into words at the times that they're affecting me the most. also i've had to work on opening up to my father more because I like never talked to him about anything (idk why, he's always been open and accepting, I think I was just worried about worrying him perhaps?)

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1764215383

I speak from experience, I essentially have no friends outside of the internet and my family. I withstand everything in silence. How can I do it? Well, my way of explaining it would be to say that within us there's something like a "hidden dimension" that can be "unlocked" when moral support cannot be found on the outside. Naturally, one must then find it on the inside, and we, instrospective people, do develop certain abilities and potentialities to a much greater extent than extroverted people. However, in other things we significantly lag behind. It's best to balance both these internal and external strengths.

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1764194886

It can be a multitude of things. Sometimes it's terrifying to speak to people. Sometimes, people don't want others to feel the brunt of their feelings. Sometimes, people will treat people worse after they open up.

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1764185621

people don't really care so i just do it on my own

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1764171421

Some people prefer keeping it private and just forget about bad things while they're with friends, and that's ok, however some do need to talk but don't show it , either because of shame, or because not wanting to "bother" anyone, some have problems they don't think will be understood, and some don't even know what's wrong with them.

Feelings are complex, and everyone feels them differently, however I personally think that sharing your concerns with friends is really important, they do really help you by giving love to you, listening to you and advising you.
This is not a "weakness", the ability to feel comfortable enough for sharing your pain and asking for help is pretty important, and it shows courage, some people really struggle to express their feelings even when they want to, so that you can do that without problems is very positive.If that's what you need to stay sane, then don't stop doing it, because taking care of yourself is crucial.
And I'll always say, sensitivity is not a bad thing, I adore sensitive people, I consider myself one too but there's people who are way more that I am, and let me tell you something, the act of friends helping and supporting each other out is BEAUTIFUL, don't let that die out <3

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1764168033

"you need courage to show weakness" said by mr. elegant man!!!! anyway what do you mean bro i dont mind you venting, if anything i also vent as much!! plus the channel is literally MADE for venting you cant force people to say something, but you can try making them more comfortable

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1764127917

I think that mostly because it's been conditioned onto them that they shouldn't talk about problems or that they're weak if they do due to whatever environment they grew up in,
For me, I do sometimes talk about my problems when I get too overwhelmed by them, but sometimes I refrain because I either don't have the energy to explain myself or I know the outcome, so why bother, yk?
You're not weak for asking for help, or dependent on people, that's literally THE purpose of people, always being there for each other to help each other, we're literally humans come on, but I think some people need their own time to open up, and I do think that while it's not inherently wrong to take it all on their own, asking for help is always a good option, there could be something you missed when you're constantly in the cycle of your own negative thoughts,
So yeah,

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1764107432

We have no choice.

It's something we get used to.

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1764105095

why should needing someone's help be a weakness? man, you are so STRONG for having the courage to ask and admit it already! it is what really makes you stand up for yourself! and i definitely wish people were braver to ask for help when they needed it...

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1764103473

Sometimes when you're doing bad, you're too focused on getting better to bother telling others. It would feel pointless and like a waste of time.

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1764102888

Well, I am the type who tries to manage everything by myself, and it’s very difficult for me to talk about anything with other people, even family or good friends.
I definitely don’t think that you or anybody else who feels the need to express things are weaker because of it. To me, it is necessary and healthy to share with other people what you are feeling and dealing with. To be honest, the strong and silent types have a weakness in not being able to confide in others. While it may make it appear as if we are managing things better, it’s only the appearance. Not being able to ask for help or talk about things is really isolating and makes it more difficult to get through.
I think that it is a common misconception, that being independent makes you stronger. The fact is that humans need to rely on other humans. And we need other perspectives as well; being only exposed to our own thoughts and way of doing things can limit our ability to grow through things.
It is important to make sure that relationships with other people are reciprocal, and that both people are able to talk and listen to each other.
As for your friend, he sounds very thoughtful and is putting your needs above his own. It is good of you to remind him that you also want to support him, because it sounds like you really care about him. Make sure that he knows that. <3
Anyway, I hope that was helpful at all. I really enjoy discussing these type of things. Have a good day/night !

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