Well, this is a 'struggle' i was sharing with some friends a few days ago, and I'll bring it up here too: since I was a teenager or so, I've tried to find something in life that totally blows my mind, a burning passion inside me, a deep commitment to any field... bt I don't think I've found it yet.
Jus to be clear, I have several interests. One of the main ones (and the one i work n most) is singing, but I relly couldn't tell why. I can't really even romanticize it, I didn't even feel a huge surge of emotion when i released my first song (I won't say the title).
Why? Why does this happen?
This thought comes back to me when i see ppl online idolizing this or that thing. The discussion can even be expanded more generally to enjoying books, movies, music, games evrything. I can't believe how some people can literally freak out over seeing their favorite singer live, cry their eyes out and base their entire existence on a book, truly love an actor so much they want to "marry them", etc...
it's just an 'onlin kinda thing'? Did I miss the joke?
Maybe i'm overthinking it, maybe I shouldn't worry about it. Its just that sometimes this impartiality i have even towards things i like... I don't know, it kinda bums me out. Sometimes I wish I could also burn inside and feel totally represented by something: assuming people can actually feel these things or... maybe it's just about pretending to idolize someone/something.
yeah just rambling, bye.
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haikatos
i think most people aren't obsessed with their hobbies, they just enjoy them but don't dedicate their whole time to it. On the internet, some people will exagerate their love for their hobbies as a way to attract other people (I've seen this more common with the crochet and book community on some social media apps), basically to build a fanbase.
I will ocassionally find someone who is just that passionate about their hobbies to that level just because that's how they are, yet they never say it's their passion. I'd say a passion is more of a talent you don't domain yet wish you would. They can be passionate about a hobby, yet it isn't their passion, just a hobby they love too much or make them feel really good.
that's a less cynical view i rly hadn't considered, thx
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A Girl
Honestly I think most people are lowkey about their hobbies and stuff they like
Social media seems to show only the extremes hah
right, maybe i only focusd on the surface w/o actually lookin' into it
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Eve
OMG same here
we'll find it somehow, i swear 🙌
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peregrine
well idolisation is one sided obsession. and what u are saying about actors and singers called parasocial relationship and usually appears as a form of escapism and avoidance from reality/problems/past traumatic experiences/etc.
it’s okay to not be passionate about smth cos usually that feeling grows from love and affection toward someone or something. and sometimes u have to build that affection step by step, exploring, experimenting, creating. so there is nothing wrong if u haven’t found it yet 🤷✨
yep, that was just a random thought i hadn't properly reflected on. Now I'm seein' it differently
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Ethan
I think a lot of the examples you see online of this aren’t healthy, like how you mentioned people wanting to marry an actor. A lot of ppl r overcompensating for their personality with an obsession of some kind, so I dont think you should worry too much. For the other % of people tho, not everyone likes something as soon as they do it. Maybe just give it time and you’ll light up when making songs, or you’ll find something u click w
yeah u're right, as i said maybe im just overthinking :D
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