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what made my mind just sort of "click"?
what made me so happy? so caring? so joyful?
how do i tell this to anyone who's struggling?
for the longest time, ive also been sad, you know. not that sad, but a little bit. part of me thinks it was more of an age thing, but... i feel like stuff only got better when i met my friends. AND THAT'S THE THING!!! HOW DO I TELL THIS TO SOMEONE WHO HAS NO FRIENDS????
it's not the first time a situation like this happens, and god it's always so boring. i feel like i'm there for nothing. my presence ain't important, so why bother if i can't give the answer. they made me do the first step, and that's the worst part: the first step. i don't even remember what my first step was.
i haven't been doing nice recently, and there were many people thoughout my life that i wanted to help so much, but i didn't. i couldn't. all that remained is some bullshit tip like "oh, love yourself before loving others" or "try going out a little bit, force yourself a little bit", things that although ARE saying what you should do, SAYING THAT NEVER WORKS. THEY ARE TIRED OF HEARING THEM.
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StargirlAgatha
A melhor dica que eu te dou é você escutar tudo o que as pessoas tem a falar sobre os problemas delas, dando um espaço para elas falarem, e depois disso, tente, tipo conforta-la se ela estiver realmente mal no momento, mas se ela estiver de maneira mais racional, você poderia dar um conselho, isso ajuda, e se a pessoa estiver chorando, tente a fazer rir
é exatamente tudo o que eu faço - mas eu tenho que melhorar na parte de escutar, admito. sinto que falo desnecessariamente as vezes, tô trabalhando nisso. obrigado por falar <3
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s0nd3r
ahh i totally feel you, i get this kind of guilt too if my empathy isn't big enough
You know, selfishness and ego aren't just the only things that are natural instincts when it comes to morality and society as a whole. I've seen arguments where people argue that being rude and a jerk shouldn't be taken seriously because everyone is born with a desire to consume and take, to get whatever they want.
but things like altruism and sympathy grow naturally, too, you know? Humans naturally like to give just as much as they like to receive. That feeling in your heart when you see someone smile isn't always born out of another goal. When it comes from the heart, a feeling that appears out of nowhere, when those urges of doing good are explained merely because you want to see someone smile or because you just want to, means that your kindness is genuine and pure. Altruism isn't just formed out of a desire to avoid suffering and to conform to society, it's also formed from your heart.
When expressing care or love, you won't always say the things people want to hear, or words that will immediately change them. It takes a LOT, i mean a LOT, of experience and empathy. The people around you should appreciate you make an effort to try, because it's proof that you care. And the fact you want to do more than enough means you truly want to help others. Real friends won't shame you for not saying that they want to hear. real friends will cherish you for being genuine.
ahh, thank you for the comment!! you're absolutely right!!
indeed. it's been really hard for me when i got into situations like this but i tried not giving up (i dont regret it rn). the last person i remember having a lot of problems just kind of got better while growing up, and like you said, those feelings come naturally.
i feel such guilt when i don't know what to say when someone vents to me. but i think being there already means something for them. at least i hope so
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