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everytime i complain about how lonely i am people always tell me to just "put myself out there" or something. every single time i did that i'd get funny or concerned looks and people would tease me because i suck at talking. and whenever i say that i dont mean it only because im bad with conversations but because i genuinely actually suck at saying words. they get all jumbled up and i have to repeat myself multiple times. i dont make sense when i talk. i dont think before i speak. so why should i put myself out there?? going outside makes my body ache enough.
is it so hard to ask someone if they want to go somewhere with you?? like at least give me the Opportunity to decline it , dont just . assume i dont wanna go . it sucks!!!! and people act as if its so easy to just go up to someone and talk to them. maybe it is! but not for long!!!!!!!!!
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neofenixlive
yeah socializing is hard, and being the "strange one" in the middle of a crowd is harder, but hey, everyone has a weird, you just dont know how to hide yours.
socializing is a process that you learn from previous experiences, so its kinda hard to expect it from others...
not saying you need to go out there and socialize, but like, make some effort, try at least chatting with new people on the web, with it youll get the grasp of how to talk about stuff!
being the person to say something first is just so scary to me . but youre probably right
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maciel
yeahhh. going out there truly was the only thing that made me actually talk to unknown people a lil bit better, but it is scary when you do start alone. its about the small steps.
plus, its a shame people just think you dont want to. not even asking once? damn.
literally sucks so bad T__T i can only be social if i have a buddy , otherwise i shut down
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Liberating madness
I get what you mean but I still believe putting yourself out there is really the only way if you fail don't lament over it just try again after learning from failure and of course remember people focus on themselves so the best way to start any conversation with a stranger is to talk about them but this also means since they are focused on themselves they will also prioritize themselves first and others second
you might be right . ive tried a lot of things But that haha ~__~;;;
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