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i'm almost (less than 6 months away) from being 18. i have not had a SINGLE romantic interaction once in my life. never held hands with a guy, never went on a date, never kissed.
i still want to love and be loved and experience dates and stuff. i want to know what it's like to hold hands or hug or be kissed or whatever.
i'm kind of a loser though, too. not in a pick-me way. i'm not looking for attention or validation by saying that, it's just what i truly think.
i can be really annoying before you get to know me and that turns off a lot of people, especially the people i find myself attracted to.
i talk way too much. i don't go out much and i get overwhelmed in crowded places. i'm weird with food so i'd feel weird going to fancy places. some days i'm just so tired and want to lay around and not talk to anyone. i want to be a better person and i don't know why i am this way but i don't want to subject anyone to myself...i guess is the best way to put it?
i want to have cool homework dates somewhere quiet and walks in the snow and stargazing and nights at home where i can wear my favorite pajamas and we can just watch a bunch of youtube and bake brownies or something. that sounds so lame. sorry.
i feel like my mental maturity stopped in middle school so it's like weird to date me or whatever. i'm like an irresponsible kid or something.
i want to be in a relationship and experience teenage love or whatever but i feel like i'm still the weird middle schooler who would get strange looks for talking about stuff nobody else understood or cared about.
being lonely is entirely my problem though, because I've had to say no to so many guys who have asked me out. i'm not a bitch, i promise, they were almost all incels and they wouldn't take no for an answer and i promise i turned them down as nicely as possible.
i think I've had like two sweet/respectful guys I've ever had to reject, and i felt bad about it but i didn't feel a spark and it's not fair to them if i accept a romantic relationship just to simply say I've had one.
but honestly, yeah, it still is my fault. I've only asked out about four or five people and they have turned me down. it's really hard to find someone i'm not completely uninterested in. i know my standards are high and it sucks because there are great guys out there that i just would have no feelings for.
idk. it's probably too late for me. this probably sounds incoherent but i wanted to get it out of my head.
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Mel☆
I feel like this whole thing about experiencing a romantic relationship as teenagers has gotten worse since people started pointing it out on social media…But regardless I totally get your point!!
Obviously being in a relationship sounds like it’s nice, and it is for sure, but I feel like before that we have to prioritise ourselves so don’t call yourself a loser!! I’m sure you’re a really interesting person!!
I feel like you’re not weird at all it’s most people that are just bland and have nothing to talk about (coming from a person that talks a lot as well)!
Before getting with my bf I thought the same things as you and you did completely good rejecting those guys, I promise you when you least expect it there’s gonna be someone that accepts you as you are, with your quirks and flaws!! After all having a partner is just the cherry on top of the cake, which has to be you!! (I hope I made sense with this last sentence)
aww this is so sweet!! thanks so much for the emotional support :'-)
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solsolsol
im 20, and months ago i had my first "experience" of the matter, but never actually were something. now im stuck thinking about someone that just searches for dopamine in short amounts of time, and it sucks cause i still want him so bad i guess. i really wish you get more comfortable with yourself, it´ll come around. most important love is not attention at all
ah, yeah, i've liked the same guy for over a year now despite how weirdly awful he is to me. we'll both make it, i hope
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devyii
honestly.. ik I'm supposed to be focusing on schooling and stuff considering its my junior year.. but I totally get what you mean girl!! may love find us both (ง •̀_•́)ง‼
thanks twin!! much love your way d(^._.^)b
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PauPetal
I understand where u are coming from completely, but don't feel too bummed out. I personally regret dating at a young age because it was just drama, problem after problem, and too much emotional investment. In time you'll find someone and when you do, it'll feel like a ''teenage dream'' ha ha
aw, thanks a bunch. this actually made me feel better. i'll keep in mind whenever i get lonely
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Facq
femcel
NO NO PLEASE NOOHOHOHOOOO
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its never over, the prettiest person i know is just like you
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okay :'-)
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₵ⱧØ₳Ⱨ
You are literally like me…. i’ve never associated with guys since I was 14
just maybe it’s because I’m asian and it’s streotypically my mom didn’t want me to be associated with guys so I’ve never dated a guy sadly. I’m not outgoing I just stayed at my home all day like a loser but I like it.. anyways we’ll live more than we’ve gone so far!
true!! i mean, i'd love to be in a relationship but it's hard to even make friends, let alone a boyfriend. i was definitely socially stunted cause i was super academic growing up and nobody else was.
we'll both make it someday :-)
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Aubrey
i have had romantic interactions but i get loneliness sm :c
good on you for not degrading yourself to incel territory though with people ^^
do well :]
thank u, that means a lot. i feel really bad rejecting people even if they're bad, so this helped me substantially with that guilt :'-)
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