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Idk if this is like a stupid thing to ask or like tmi or whtvr but I feel like I’ve missed out on so much of life because of this one specific thing 😠everyone else has experienced so much more in this aspect meanwhile I’ve been left behind
I’m 20 years old and I’ve had 1 partner my entire life, it was a relationship that lasted only three months, and the kicker is that it was a middle school relationship 💀 he told me I was boring and lacked personality and left me, and like, I can’t even be mad about it because I felt nothing in response at the time but now I’m in my 20s and realize that I’ve never even been close to having another relationship, meanwhile all my friends are moving on to that part of their life
The dating scene is so terrible for my generation too, not many people want a genuine relationship anymore, and usually it has to rely on certain *physical contact* that I’m not quite sure about yet, yknow? I also don’t like interacting with too many people that aren’t alternative (bc when they aren’t there’s a larger chance their political views will stray too far from mine) and I prefer to interact with trans men/mascs like myself especially when it comes to dating. Where I live alternative people and trans people my age are very VERY hard to come acrossÂ
Basically what I’m saying is it might be too late for me 😎 my conversation and physical affection skills have been shot since middle school and never got the chance to recover and I’m surrounded by people who’ve been long since over that time of their life so whose sinking in the same boat I am!! sorry chat it’s lateÂ
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Maxgetsscared
I think our generation are just so used to fast paced relationships. Trans/alt people are also hard to come by where I live so I know what you mean. I'm also 20 and haven't really been in anything serious so its definitely not uncommon. I doubt its "too late for you", its just not the right time yet
you’re probably right, it is true that our generation is more into situationships and stuff like that rather an actual relationship
it just kinda sucks yknow
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clover - ⋆｡°âœ©
trust me, you aren't missing out. having a lot of relationships at a young age can ruin how you think about other people. im 16, just got out of another relationship in march. i've never been single for more than 6 months. it's draining. don't rush. you're 20, you're only 4 years older than i am. it's never "too late". there's the right person out there for everyone. some people find them when they're 16, some people find them when they're 45. it's better to wait and be in a relationship with someone you know loves and cares for you rather than just dating people because you feel like you should.
I see what you mean, thank you <3 I guess it’s just a bit disheartening seeing other people my age getting to move out with their partners and stuff and I still have to wait lol
by puppetxprince; ; Report
i get that. it can (is) really upsetting to see people who are happy with relationships when you can't even find one (or have never been happy in one). all i can really say is just explore yourself first and make sure you're ready to be in a relationship. being ready and having to wait is better than being completely unprepared and being pushed into a relationship that ends up turning out wrong :/ we'll all find someone eventually.
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lulu piss
you said yourself that you have a
preference of people to interact w
and finding people of that criteria
is very difficult, for some people
it’s not them it’s the town they live
in esp if its a small town or a very
conservative town idk you but im
hopeful that youll find someone
i feel like you will eventually how
you feel is incredibly valid tho, one
of my best friends feels the same
abt his life im not optimistic by any
means but try slowly tapping into
another mindset thats more kinder
to you if you can im sorry if i sound
lecturey
Not at all!! And thank you so much for the advice. It gets a little draining after looking back on it so many times lol
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