I just saw a post of someone posting their DNI and a bunch of ppl commented arguing about their DNI criteria...
Be so serious?? People are allowed to not want to interact for any reason, or no reason at all, and if their criteria includes you it includes you. The worst of it that I saw was because one of thier DNI's was ppl under a certain age. Why is that a problem? The chances that someone my age or around it wants to interact with anyone close to or more than 2 years younger than them is low because it feels weird. Like... the age gap isn't huge no, but to me 16, 15, 14, 13 year old's feel like real actual children. I don't know what we could possibly have in common, and don't want to know, because I have friends my own age and would like to keep having friends my own age.
AND! That's such a weird thing to push for as an adult or a kid. Why is a 14yo so eager to be friends with someone 4-5 years older than them? The narrative I keep seeing is "oh we can be mature" but like... no I promise you, you sound and are acting your age. I was already 14 once, all my friends were too, we aren't now so there's no need for me to circle back to having friends that age. If you're 14, you should want 14 year old friends. When you're 19, almost 20, that raises some flags for me.
Obviously I'm not talking about big brothers best friend, or cousin, or anything, but if a random stranger on the internet was like 'mhm yeah im 20 but i want to be besties with this 15yro' I would have questions. And if some random 15 yro was like 'I want older friends bc im soooo mature', I would be weirded out.
If you have to say you are mature, 100% of the time you are not. It's okay to make and find new friends here, but no one should be mad if real actual adults do not want to interact with real actual children. Real actual children should stop being pushed to grow up and should be looking to interact with other real actual children.
I also want to mention how actually uncomfortable it is to have a minor telling you why you should be okay being friends with them; if you have to write a full 3 paragraphs to make it justifiable maybe we just shouldn't do it yeah?
Point being: It's weird, it's weird every time i see it, it's weird from an adult and especially from a kid. let people have boundaries.
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