My Mother didn't wanna see me for her Birthday...

Vent post really long please don't read if you're sensitive, i guess but nobody knows me here anyway so I might as well tell my feelings to keep them archieved so I don't forgive anyone –_–...

A bit of a backstory, my mom had an anursym and she went into reha after but I believe her close friend is manipulating her and making her feel guilty (Holy shit she's so terribly annoying I could make a whole section ranting about that bitch) she's saying stuff like 'I saved your mother' and 'I love your mother more than you do' and I also picked up on some patterns in word choice that heavily imply she is just putting ideas in my moms head. Yeah u can tell I'm pissed off bc I'm trying hard to love my mother and I still do but it's really sad seeing her manipulated like that.

So me and her friend (Y) had an arguement after she brought me to my moms reha, it started with me telling my mom that my uncle broke my laptop (Which btw he denied and my mother 'believed' him, but I think she's just against me... and ya that's why I can't VC rn or play pc games for the one or 2 who are wondering ACTUALLY PLEASE DONT READ IT ITS EMBARRASSING XD). When my mom was away we walked out of the building and she said...

V: 'So what did you and your mother talk about'

(My mother was saying, I should get therapy, because I must be really shocked from the incident and some other stuff)

Me: 'I don't wanna talk to you about it'

V: "Okay"

30 seconds later....

V: 'I know you don't wanna talk to me about it, but i need to get it of my chest'

Me: 'Okay, you can go forth and talk to the air' (I said smth like this its different in german bc I felt disrepcted like hoe its none of your buisness)

V: *Starts yapping off how im disrespectful and how my 'niceness in the ride' was fake and just because I wanted something.

You're a 50 yr old woman have some self awareness.

*Saying stuff like, 'I saved ur mothers life, thats why you should give me respect''*

To which I replied smth like, "I think you're just saying that because you want respect and not because you love her"

And she said, 'Yeah thats why you should respect me'

(Bitch.)

I just then said I don't wanna talk to her about it but I wish I recorded the stuff she said (I forgot up until the end) She kept yapping for 30 MINUTES while I was quiet and on my phone and mostly said nothing bc why would I argue with a psycho bitch?

I also called her a bitch and hoe (literally only those 2) bc I was upset but pls im 16 and shes like 40 years older than me.

A few days after she loved to act like a messiah to me or something I just ignored her childish comments and screenshot everything

BUT when my mom texted a few ago, she said I needed to apologise to her friend and IM RLLY FKING BAFFELED bc why would i apologise to her.

SO SHE WAS SAYING STUFF LIKE:

Y is the adult, and we treat each other with respect.
If you don’t apologize, I’ll unfortunately have to tell (BEEP) that he won’t be picking you up on Sunday.
There’s nothing wrong with Y, but you can’t be rude or even insulting.

(????)

Genuinely wtf either she hates me or her friend is manipulating her.

Also I told her tjat she said stuff like bad stuff but she just ignored it.

I'm jst gonna paste the chat msg here bc im tired of writing:

Me: It’s just strange that her ego seems to matter more than seeing your own daughter.
This isn’t the version of you I know.
We barely even talk, Mom... Are you sure this isn’t coming from her?

Mother: Good morning. Yes, I’m sure.
A lot has to change.
That’s what I learned at the clinic—if I didn’t already know it before.

(Okay I'm tired of it atp so I ask this: (Also btw im not a psycho ik it seems that way but give me the benefit of the doubt ty)

Me: Okay, what exactly needs to change?

SHE DIDNT ANSWER THAT. BRUV.

Mother: Did you apologise

–_– Ya I have multipule theories here the most likely I just she talked to her therapist, copied the words bc the therapist didn't tell her what needs to change and she has no idea either.

Okay shortly after, her birthday was coming up and I wanted to soend the time with her so I argeed to meet up in person with Y we could 'apologise' to eachother.

Mother: Yes, once things with Y are sorted out.

Me: Why? The connection between us has nothing to do with Y, does it?
Or do you see it differently?

Mother: This is about the fact that you insulted my girlfriend.
That’s not okay, and it’s not acceptable.

Me: So your friend is more important to you then me?

(Ik tjis is manipulative i'm sorry but thats exactly what I was thinking)

Mother: It had nothing to do with that. You need to learn how to behave.

Me: I think she needs to learn that again as well 💀

Mother: Again, shes the adult and she only means it good with you

(WJAT IN THE 1940's LIKE WHO STILL SAYS THAT?? MY MOM NEVER SAID THAT)

Note: My mom is ESFJ and Y is ESTJ

Me: What exactly did she say? Because I think she left many details out.

Mother: She didn't say much, just that you insulted her as a bitch and whore.

Me: (feed up and tired)

Yeah, exactly. I called her those two things because I’d had enough of her assumptions.
Bottom line: she didn’t respect my boundaries — and if you want respect, you’ve got to give it, adult or not.
When we left, she asked what we talked about. I said I didn’t want to discuss it with her. She said “okay” — but 30 seconds later, she started again, saying she had to say it, it was her right. I told her she could have her little monologue, I’d wait right here. Then she just kept going.
I clearly said I didn’t want to talk, but she kept pushing and got really nasty — yeah, the word “whore” came up too. She talked 80% of the time, I 20%. I tried to calm things down — but yeah, that was pointless.
And one more thing: she told me not to “cry to you” or your phone would get taken away. But she still complains to you behind my back… that’s messed up.

(YEAH AND THE KAST PART, she definitly just told me that so she could seem like the vicitim)

My mom didnt reply. Ig. Idk what to think abt it.

Me: is it okay if I come to your birthday?

Mom: If you apologise to Y

Me: Fine I will apologise, but it is to late, and i will do it on monday bc i dont wanna do it on your birthday.

Mom: Okay

So We keep writing but basically, today is her birthday, and I asked her if I can come, she said again yes if u apologise, but i said I can only do it on monday... Idk what she wants me to do?? I asked if maybe her other friend can drive me to her but she also said no again and ig i just gave up then bc it was clear she didnt want me there I still wished her a happy birthday but its just sad to see her whithering away like that.

Yeah idfk if im gonna post this mess

If anyone read to the end and still think im not psycho then ty... 😭 Also its less embarrassing to say tjis jere but I don't have anyone to share this too bc i dont wanna seem like a burden and my whole family basically hates me yaaa.