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why is it that marriage is often seen as this big positive thing. like if you get married, then you must be happy, or.. successful? this mindset is so common that once people hit a certain age, especially young adults, they immediately get hit with the “so, when are you getting married?” question. i know i'm not a young adult but i often hear someone always question that to young adults :/
is marriage really that important?? are we considered truly happy only after reaching the “married” status? but c'mon dude.. let's be real, marriage isn’t as pretty as you, me, or anyone imagines it to be. when you start thinking, “ahaha my wife will be like this, and then we’ll have kids like that, and everything’s gonna be perfect..-” no. it doesn’t work like that. i’m not trying to change your view on marriage, i just want to talk about the reality. marriage is complicated and everyone knows that :o
sure, sometimes i do imagine getting married, handling life with a partner, raising kids, whatever. but the responsibilities that come with it? those are heavy. especially if you end up being the head of the family or.. breadwinner? if anything goes wrong, you're the one who gets blamed. and finding someone who fits your ideals in this generation?? good luck with that LOL. you’ve seen how people are so easily influenced by social media, right?? not just women, men too. both of them. and it's crazy. and because of all that mess, i personally choose not to get married. not because i don’t think i’m capable of handling a family. honestly, i do. i believe i’d be a decent backbone for a household. but the idea of chasing after someone based on random internet user standards?? hell naw. where did you put your brain at? especially those who spend so much money just to get noticed by someone like those people.. seriously?? oh wow, you just spend lot of money for that.
sorry i’m getting off topic. but like, why would you change yourself just to meet their internet unrealistic standards? people are allowed to have standards, sure, but there’s a limit. yk there's some guy who says “i want a girl who’s this and that, she’s gotta be pretty, great body..-” but he himself looks rough as heck and doesn’t even try to improve.. what did he expect?? same goes the other way around. some girls say, “i want a guy who’s hot, has a visible adam’s apple, nice biceps, this and that..-” like okay sure, but you’re a 4/10 yourself. please realize yourself ;)
so yeah i choose not to get married for the rest of my life. not because i’m scared of commitment or whatever.. i am ready. but i just don’t want the drama. when you get married, the responsibility piles up, there’ll definitely be some family drama, bills to pay, constant pressure to provide for your kids or partner. and if you can’t meet those needs you got more drama. i don’t wanna deal with all that. i'm gonna die alone anyway. so.. why marriage??
personally, i’d rather work for myself. if i earn money, i’ll spend like 40% of it on housing or savings and enjoy the rest for myself (depending on the job and salary, ofc). and when i die, i’ll die alone. depends on what you do with your life. so yeah, in my opinion marriage isn’t necessary. even if your parents want it, what can you do?? well.. thankfully, i have an older sibling who’s already have someone to marry. so if i don’t marry or have kids, it’s like.. not the end of the world.
and if people say stuff like “aren’t you afraid if you have no one and spend your life all alone?? aren't you're going depressed?” SYBAU. what do you mean by DIHPRESSED cuh?🥀 i’m actually doing just fine and enjoying my life. you don't need a partner to be happy. really. if you ever think like that.. idk. you might be kinda dumb? bcs i don't think marriage is the purpose of life. but yeah if you want to get married that's fine, that's cool! well, i'm just a young teenager after all. leave a comment if you have something to say.
06/06/2025
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Dio
I used to date but dating was not good for me because I didn’t love myself. So I would stay with them even when they were abusive. Because they were my only source of “love”.
It took me scary amount of courage to be single again. Because I had to go back into a world where “love” for me doesn’t exist.
But it was the right decision. I decided to stop dating until I start loving myself.
Ironically, your attitude of preparing never to get married and working on being happy while single is the best way to come across the right partner.
Most people aren’t happy single. That’s why most people are in a unhappy relationship. Because they can’t tell what’s good for them and what’s not. So they stay with a partner even when they aren’t good for them.
If you are happy single, it’s easier for you to tell what relationship is good for you and what’s not. So even if you get into a relationship that turns out to be toxic for you, you have no problem leaving them and going back to being single again, until you find a partner that ACTUALLY is good for you.
yeah but.. why would i even wait for someone that actually good for me?? i've made up my mind not to get married. i refuse to believe there would be someone who's actually good for me. i do really mean it when i said i choose not to get married for the rest of my life. yk i really really hate when these "love" things turn to be an argument to each other.
imagine, you just want to get affection from someone but what you get after getting affection is a useless and meaningless argument. tbh i really hate it. and instead of getting those pointless arguments you actually try to spend time and have fun with that person?? and then you expect that person to give you more affection and stop making those pointless arguments?? well, because of that i don't want to make the same mistake for "someone that actually good for me".
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My wording was wrong. I wasn’t implying that you should change your mind and be open to relationship. My point was that IF you are to come across someone good, it’ll only happen when you are happy single. So whether you wanna get married or not, everyone should learn to be happy single. So I was actually supporting you not wanting to get married.
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