Irl shipping is borderline bulling

As the title say. I am open to A LOT of ships, but if your OTP involves real life people don't talk to me.

I know it's like a culture in some fandoms. I have friends who are active in k-pop spaces and I know there it's really normalized. One of my friends even is an author of popular fanfic involving idols and it does make me uncomfortable, but what can I do.

But why I consider shipping bullying? Because I've been in two fandoms, but there are probably bunch of other examples, where irl shipping was a problem. What fandoms? Eddsworld and DMSP (pretty sure BeeDuo stopped streaming together because people kept shiping them, i might be wrong tho). In both spaces people involved were vocal about their discomfort considering shipping, yet people kept doing it. And I just must ask - why? If you're a fan of said creators why would you be so open about breaking their boundaries? And if you did that because you were not a fan of them, then IT IS literally bulling.

Ah, and also I've been bullied in school like that. Group of people were "shipping" me with a class loser, for what other reason as if not to make fun of me? After that I'd go home and make yaoi pairing with them as a way of coping. The more I disliked one person the more ships I've made with them.

I know that shipping is an integral part of fandoms, don't get me wrong. Doesn't make shipping unconsenting real life people any less weird.

(no beta read, we die like my will to live)