Report Blog Entry
i saw a lot of people disagreeing with this quote on the internet, saying that self-love does not replace romantical desire, and that's true, honestly. however my experience was quite different when actually trying to like myself a year back.
when i started liking myself and my hobbies more, i was so busy that i didn't even care about having a girlfriend. yes, i still have desires, but i became more of a "yeah that would be nice" thing, rather than a necessity, so i don't really care about being single. and no, it wasn't a quick solution, as i had to move on from a long date crush that i ended up not trying out a relationship because there were a lot of personal factors about ourselves.
i think loving yourself is NOT the solution - but a step. an important one.
THIS is how i think it should be understood.
Comments
Displaying 3 of 3 comments ( View all | Add Comment )
weirdhouseplant
I feel like there's some truth to it. People are attracted to the confidence that tends to come with loving yourself and it tends to make you a better partner if you don't rely on the validation of someone else
YES. EXACTLY. self-validation is soooo important
by maciel; ; Report
SNAGGZ
I think that also that the quote is redundant. Humans are social creatures like all other mammals and have better wellbeings and mental health when in a community. So "love yourself first" could maybe apply to romantic relationships but for all relationships as a whole e.g. best friends its a bit ridiculous.
fair reason. romantic relationships are way stronger and demand more effort to maintain, so for friendships i really can see it going well without self-love. hell, i had friends when i didn't like myself that much.
by maciel; ; Report
Sneeze
Yes i totally agree, it is a step! I think this quote should go hand in hand with the quote “we accept the love we think we deserve”, if you have no self love you won’t be able to properly accept the love given by others which will inevitably put stress on the relationship. Or at least I think lol I’ve never been in a relationship hahha take this with a grain!
hahah i've only been on one, actually. and this kinda changed me as a person
by maciel; ; Report