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Date: 27 april 2025
I’m kinda reaching that age when it feels like I should have some sexual experience. I know there’s no pressure and everyone does it at their own pace and all that, but I still can’t help but feel like I’m missing out. Obviously I’m curious abt it, mostly what’s been holding me back is that I’m scared. Heard this Finnish saying that’s translated to “u know ur ready when ur more horny than scared”. And I mean, sounds abt right, cs that’s really what’s been pulling me back and forth on if I should do it or not.
I was thinking abt maybe having sex yesterday when I was hanging out with the guy I’m into (situationship..?). But the thing is, we’re both virgins, and for some reason I’ve been told by many that “as long as one out of the two of u knows what they’re doing”. But I cant decide if I believe it or not cs on one side yea I get it, u want to be with someone that knows what they’re doing cs u obviously don’t know. However on the other hand, isn’t it good that if u fuck up, the other person will be on the same level as u and prolly fuck up too. Anyway we didn’t do it cs we realized none of us knows how to.
I gotta go to sleep, can’t stay up thinking of this when I got shit to do tomorrow, I’m going to meet some friends in a park that’s hosting a lil something. Got vaccinated today btw, against TBE. My arm hurts.
- Elliot
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abby
honestly i feel like there is not a point in sex unless its emotionally intimate in a way? if you know what i mean because the first time i did it i kinda felt like it was accomplishment instead of something to cherish and to get to know them in another way. i hope what im saying makes sense? like make sure its something you both want than something you'll take for granted
Ievuks
Honestly I feel like people take sex for granted. It's like they're alwaysss competing which one loses their v card faster. Don't get a fomo. there's this mini documentary or interview or something about this woman who is 40 and still a virgin. She basically says she forgot about sex 3 years ago and to this day, no one talks about it
I get how that can happen, cs I mean sex isn't really THAT important I don't think. I mean I hadn't even really thought abt it much until I got interested in someone (and it actually went somewhere).
by Elliot; ; Report
jazzy
dont feel pressured to do it just cuz you're at a certain age. do it when you feel like ur ready. id say ur not missing out on a lot really... its super painful (for me anyways idk about others ...) its better to just wait til the time is right with the right person imo.
The thing is idk when the “time is right” cs maybe I’ll never think it’s the right time. I don’t wanna sit around waiting for the right time if the right time won’t ever come. I don’t get it if it’s so painful why do ppl do it? There’s gotta be more to it than just pain, I hope. Idk, thanks for the advice tho
by Elliot; ; Report
i see ur points. the reason why I do it even tho its painful is simply cuz me and my partner try to see what makes me feel less pain and what is more uncomfortable for me. just experimenting basically. but trust me u will know when the time is right idk how to explain it cuz I lost my virginity not long ago after lots of time thinking about how I should be doing this stuff by now cuz others my age are doing it. i didn't feel truly comfortable trying until a year or a bit more into my current relationship. but we are all different so your experience might be different to mine. well if u do wanna try it out, id say do a lot of reading/research on it so u know what ur doing, its mostly painful for me because we have a lot of research to do . i didn't rlly know what to expect on my first time. (also I possibly have endometriosis so there's also that factor lol)
by jazzy; ; Report
Yea I think I have to do way more research than I have so far, I often think things will just "work themselves out" but I've found that sex is maybe not one of those things, cs both ppl gotta make it happen and probably have some knowledge before hand. (Never heard of Endometrios before, I googled it and it seems painful so that sucks, wishing u the best)
by Elliot; ; Report
br34kc0r3_sc3n3
im ngl, im a virgin. but idc and i think you should really know your partner and their experience shouldnt matter as long as you both like ir. you shouldnt do anything with someone that youre not 100% sure you genuinely love. i would hold back til tgen. but then again, im some random person on ur phone whos opinion doesnt matter. do what you want dude.
I just wish I knew what I was doing yk. I don’t think I’ll ever be 100% sure on anything, but I get what u mean. Thx for the advice man
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