no, you're not in love with a girl you knew for some days

i think my perception of love has kinda shifted a lot after i noticed i didn't love my friend romantically, i just love her person as a whole, but my brain thought this kind of love was so intense that it was basically romantical.

god, i was so much wrong.

you see, i never really had much friends before high school, so when i got a girl friend, i thought "well i guess it's her" but IT WASN'T. i just realized this after i started actually knowing her, seeing her as a person, and notice her green and red flags. the thing is - i kept thinking i loved her for MONTHS. this got so much bad that i actually managed to develop feelings for her, but when that happened, i didn't feel like i wanted to have a relationship with her anymore.

ever since then, i've noticed that there are different levels of love. you can love a girl simply because she's a good friend. and that's supposed to be obvious, but society obfuscates this. it makes you think that you should have only ONE friend that's a girl, and that should be your girlfriend, and that you have to look for girls to have one, like it was an obligation, a requirement. i thought it was a requirement. a requirement for being happy with myself.

my heart shattered when i noticed that i was confusing myself this whole time.

love is complex. you can't actually LOVE someone this fast. it requires time and development.

what i'm trying to say is - hey you, little boy. or girl. i don't know, i'm mainly talking about boys because it's them who are romantically irresponsible most of the time, like me.

if you met someone cool recently and you think you are in love - think a little bit. you might be confusing affection and passion with love. if you're feeling one of these two, or both, then you know it's not, but can become love.