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Is love temporary? Or meaningfully omnipresent?
4/1/25 - APRIL FOOLS!!
Bit of a late post I know but I kind of just been in a grey area of deciding what's worth talking about and what isn't (and was enjoying my lovely weekend). I've gotten TON of support from various people about my blogs and it makes me SOOOOOOO happy people are reading them!! Anyways let's get into todays yap session! Enjoy <3
+ BONUS MONOLUGE WRITTEN FOR MY DRAMA CLASS BECAUSE WHY NOT!!! >:3333
This might make you go "WHAT?" but.."I don't believe in love.. I'm kidding silly! I'll explain what I mean in a sec, and I know what it sounds like and NO, I'm not allergic to joy and whimsy I mean I'm me after all!! :3 but whenever I see a couple that's young around high-school age I just have one question that repeats in my head over and over again. "Is teenage love real? Or is it just a construct of friendships that media has put into our heads?" I'll be listing many movies and shows to back up this argument on why I believe LOVE can not be found or entertained at a young age.
1. Do kids date for the idea of finding a partner, or because they like the idea of being loved/loving)?
Let's start off with Idea number one. Do kids date for the idea of finding a partner, or because they like the idea of being loved/loving)? I mean think about it, many kids who get together at a young age stereotypical (or are known for) not lasting for a long time. But when they see influences on the media that tell them to pursue someone romantically, this channels off the real "love" factor making the person operate off pure desire. You're probably asking.."Waffle, what the FHUCK are you yapping about right now?" Just hold on a bit longer before you close the tab, just trust me. Whenever we see something on the media like for example a ad for peanuts, in the back of our mind the idea for peanuts will linger. Let's say the ads over and the movie starts and it mentions peanuts (unrelating to the ad). Now you start to go "ughhh, now I kind of want peanuts..". This is a basic example of INFLUENCING. This is why advertisments exist, to pop that idea of a 4 for 4 big mac meal into your head so the next time you think of burgers you go, "ah! that 4 for 4 big mac meal I saw on TV yesterday is really working its effects on me." NOW take THAT knowledge and put that with a young teenage mind. Teenagers are more susceptible to media and trends. Exmp; "Ooo this shirt in trending? MOM THIS SHIRT IS TRENDING!" buys it "Ohhhh Jennifer Lopez says Doja Cat sucks? Maybe I should put this in my bio since everyone loves Jlo.." changes bio. When coming across romance that's a completely different ballpark. We all know the viral "BALLON POPPING CHALLENGE 100 GIRLS!!" or "SPEED DATING 100 GIRLS AT ONCE!!" or "LOVE OR HOST OMEGLE ADDITION!!". When we see titles and videos by our favorite creators not only does it attract kids who are bound to watch the videos, but it also attracts negative mindsets to impressionable audiences. "50% of the girls in the video said popped their balloon for guys my height..If I'm not 6ft sofiya won't love me.", "All the girls in the video had a body type not like mine at all. If I don't look like them, how would I love myself?" So they change their mindset. "I need to find a partner who loves me for me." Notice how the "I need to find a partner.." has already slipped into their mind? Kind of like the peanuts analogy, all we have to do now is wait for a romantic interest to be involved then BAM! And I mean..how hard can that be in this generation?
2. We're born hypocrytical, in this sense that is.
When jumping into the "looking for a relationship" game it can be quite hard for teens. Especially with the society and beauty expectations are constantly up and changing, things are harder to adapt to. Kids go on Instagram or TikTok and see couples that are happy together and doing all sorts of activites that correlate with romance in a way such as picking flowers, picnics, dates. But when kids see this they don't see the love first, they see the relationship. Now they match the idea of "love" with "relationship" causing them to come to a conclusion subconsciously. "Since we know that happiness means love, and media is telling me love means relationship, and relationship is the priority and main goal..I need to find someone to date quick!" This obviously holds the question on what love really is? It's funny because love is supposedly the most common emotion felt but we don't even know how to register what love really is. Love is a mixture of things. Love is a mixture of affection. Love is a mixture of compassion. Love is the small things. Love is the echo of laughter in an empty room, the warmth of hands that never let go, a quiet place where souls rest easy, and a wildfire that never burns cold. But for us love is "relationships". Love is boyfriend and girlfriend. Love is superficial materialistic gifts that sum up to value how much "love" really means. Love is meaningless. Love holds no value. Now I'm not going to act like the idea of having interest is stupid because we're all hormonal teenagers, and I've had crushes in the past as well! So I guess I am too a hypocrite ! :0
3. Love is richer with age. - poem by me (finale)
Even then love lives on, and who am I to judge. Love is different for everyone. Okay, that concludes todays yap session/blog if you came this far DM me a strawberry or kudo or comment! If you have any feedback or anything my DMS are always open. ONWARDS AND OUT!!
++++++BONUS MONOLOUGE!!++++++
I know it sounds silly, but… I don’t think I can get rid of them. The plushies, I mean. The ones from her. It’s not that I still love her—God, no. I don’t even think I miss her, not really. But they’re like… echoes, you know? Soft little reminders of something that used to be warm, even if it eventually turned cold.
I thought I was over it. I really did. And then my girlfriend—my current girlfriend—she gave me one. A little stuffed number, 2, all squishy and cute, and she gave it to me just because she saw it and said a stupid little pun like “Are you the number 2?..Because you're TWO cute.” She's so silly.. So she threw dart after dart at the fair until eventually boom. She won it. But the second I held it, it was like my brain hit rewind. Suddenly, I was back in my old apartment, unwrapping a stupid little bear from someone who isn’t here anymore. Someone who didn’t stay. It’s like… these things aren’t just things. They’re timestamps, holding feelings I didn’t even know were still there.
It’s not that I want her back. I just don’t know how to separate the good from the bad. I don’t know how to hold something soft without remembering how it once felt safe. And I don’t know how to accept something new without feeling like I’m carrying ghosts into it. I don’t want to tell my girlfriend that. She’d probably think I’m ridiculous, or worse, that I’m not over my ex. But it’s not about her. It’s about me and the way I cling to things that make me feel like I still have pieces of a past I’ve already lost.
So what do I do? Do I pack them up? Do I force myself to forget? Or do I just… let them sit there, staring at me from the corner of my bed, whispering memories I wish didn’t still feel so real?
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Nia
i feel so seen by this piece and just know i love you and i now want to read every single thing you've ever created.
you have NO IDEA how much this means to me !! I can't wait to see your reaction to my other blogs!!
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