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hey there, i feel kinda curious.. does anyone actually care, or are we all just pretending? like, i've never really felt like someone genuinely cared about me. and if i'm being honest, i don't think i've ever truly cared about someone either. not in the way people talk about it.
it's like.. all i can do is just go through the motions, act like i care, say the right things, but deep down it's nothing. and honestly, i get so annoyed when someone keeps going on about how much they hate themselves, how everything sucks, how they’re the unluckiest person in the world. like, dude.., do something. sitting there, drowning in self-pity, just makes it worse. life keeps moving, with or without u.
and maybe that’s the thing. people say they care, they do nice things, they offer support, but is it real? or is it just some social script that we're all following? like, when someone vents, are people actually feeling bad for them?? or are they just playing the part of the "good friend" because that's what they’re supposed to do?
even if care does really exist, i feel like i.. don't have it. like, even when people tell me they care, it doesn't reach me. i don't feel it. i don't think i ever have. maybe there's something wrong with me?? or maybe i've just learned not to expect it, so even if someone does care, i wouldn't know how to accept it. it's weird, bc i know what words to say, i know how to act like i care, but feeling it? believing it when some1 says it to me?? ion think i've ever been able to. hmm and i wonder if i ever will :o
01/04/2025
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☆Matty_Smatty☆
I think a big question is whether we want to be PERCEIVED as kind, or if we want to BE kind. It's the intention and if that intention drives the action. I get what you mean about genuine care, because, honestly, I wonder if I truly love and/or care about people, when I feel like I'm also following the script (like you talked about). And it's a scary thing, knowing that everyone is capable of lying and putting up a facade, but in the end, there are also many many people who are true to others, who are good people that want others to be treated with love.
Also, I know there will be someone for you that you can connect with and feel like your honest self. That will love you and get you back on your feet when you've fallen or sit with you when you're tired. (Sorry if that sounded corny, but I think it's very true.)
it’s so easy to fall into that ‘script’ without even noticing. but you’re right, there might be real people out there who actually care. thanks for saying that, really.
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Dio
Loving and caring goes hand in hand. Is there anyone that you love Abian? If not, then it would make sense that you don't care for many people.
Also, I struggle in the same way when it comes to caring to have "opinions" on topics like politics.
We all love different things, therefore we care for different things. And that is okay. We are all different from each other so that we can cover for each other.
Does that make sense?
hmm yeah, that does make sense actually. i’ve never really thought about it like that—how love and care are connected. i don’t think i’ve ever really loved someone deeply, so maybe that’s why caring feels kinda foreign to me. it’s like i just don’t have that bond with anyone. i like what u said tho, about how we all care about different things and kinda cover for each other. that’s a cool way to look at it. thanks for sharing ur thoughts, it helps me think abt this stuff a little differently :)
by bleakangel; ; Report
★ zhuva ★
in my opinion, it's both. yeah, i know it's not a very satisfying answer, but it's the truth. a lot of people say they care, but usually, they’re just following the script they've been taught. they might comfort you when you're feeling down, even if they don't truly care that much.
as much as i dislike the facade people put on, and even though i'm strongly against pretending just because it’s seen as the "right thing to do," i don’t necessarily think it’s a bad thing. they might not deeply care about your troubles, but they do want you to feel better. in some cases, they just want the situation to be over with, but at least they’re not causing any immediate harm.
that said, i also know there are people who genuinely care about others—people who truly worry about their friends and their well-being. i know this for sure. most people are just bad at expressing it.
expressing and understanding care is a lot like expressing and understanding love. people have different love languages, and when they don’t match or understand each other’s, it creates distance. it makes people feel like the other person doesn’t care as much as they actually do.
the same goes for care. for example, when someone vents, some people express care by listening, understanding their emotions, and offering support. others show care by trying to solve the problem or giving advice.
from what i can tell, something personal inspired this blog. i don’t know what you’ve gone through, but i do know this: someone cares about you, even if you don’t realize it. care is a difficult feeling to understand, and that makes it hard to see when people actually do care.
sorry for the yap, i just really liked this topic lol
i get what u're saying. but i’m not sure if care is something that’s always real, or if it’s just something we’re supposed to do. for me, i’ve never really felt it. so it’s hard to believe it when ppl say it. maybe ppl try, but.. i’m not sure if it’s always genuine.
by bleakangel; ; Report
it's better to assume they do. in reality, none of us truly know, we just hope. and caring isn't something that you "should" do. you shouldn't force yourself to feel anything. the time of uncertainty will sooner, or later, pass.
by ★ zhuva ★; ; Report
Arik Ozotf
I wonder this as well. Is caring sympathy, or empathy? If something bad happened to a friend, I can objectively agree it sucks, but it's impossible for me to feel genuine "pain" for something someone's going through unless I am currently going through it. Even past experiences may be similar but still so different. Does that mean I don't care for them? I'm unsure, but I know if I really didn't care, I wouldn't bother to listen to their problems anyways. Of course, there are people who are just following a social obligation, but I don't.
i get what u mean. but i've already been through all that, so when ppl vent, it just doesn’t hit the same. idk if that means i don’t care or if i just got used to it :/
by bleakangel; ; Report
romance.jpeg
Hey, I understand what you're saying.
I felt like this when I was younger but I do believe people do care and it's not something societal. I mean I do care about things but sometimes there's a disconnect with people. Personally, I think care is something that grows over time, it has to be nurtured.
Overall, I think being a teen is a really confusing time, just take things slow.
yeah, maybe care is something that needs time to grow, but i just never really felt it. people say they care, but it never really sticks. maybe? im just not meant to feel it the way others do. but i do agree, being a teen is confusing as heck. taking it slow sounds nice, but what if nothing changes?
by bleakangel; ; Report
Yeah some people say they care but don't and that's just how it is sometimes.
Personally, I think things change ( as a person) so slowly that you can't notice the change.
Honestly, I think you should just watch Whisper of the Heart and listen to Nothing Happens changed my perspective when I was 14.
Wish you the best
by romance.jpeg; ; Report
i guess people change without even realizing it. maybe i just haven't noticed it in myself yet. thanks for the recommendation btw, i'll check it out ;)
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