High-School Relationships ! (9th grade)

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High-School Relationships !

3/26/25

Sorry about being absent the last day I was on a plane back to my home city and I was SUPER tired. Anywhoot! Today's topic is "High-School Relationships" but specifically 9th grade relationships. So some of the stuff I'm going to say will of course be a mixture of my own experience and takes. Enjoy <3

 So the school I go to is a professional preforming art school that is a "reach school" meaning it's difficult to get into. When I first auditioned I had doubt of my acceptance but when I got the digital form of my acceptance I COULD'NT be happier. And like any teenager does before a big step in their life..I watched EVERY art school vlog I can find. That means all the "What you should know entering high-school.." (none of them told me what I needed them to.) And I was SO READY. Enter..FIRST.DAY.OF.HIGH-SCHOOL!1!!111! Picture a nervous, sweaty, dazed kid plopped onto the steps of the most prestigious art high-school in the entire state. Walking into the building was nothing like I thought it would be. Lines intersecting of different kids in different grades all waiting to get their schedules for the year. Not knowing which line to join I slide into the nearest one. Standing on that line had me thinking about a lot of things. 

1. Am I gonna fumble on the first day of school?

2. How does this whole academic + drama thing work? (I got in for drama)

3. Did I wear deodorant today? GOD please say yes..

"NEXT!" 

My feet were STUCK. Rooted deeply into the ground I slowly trek my way towards the table. 

"Name." 

"Rhys {Last Name}" ..Freshman Drama Stu-

"Here take a photo."I remember my phone deep into my tote bag as I shuffled through books and notebooks and useless junk. I took a snapshot and looked at my schedule. You're probably wondering how this ties in with "high-school relationships" WELL JUST BE FOOKIN PATIENT MATE. I remember seeing and meeting everyone in my classes, my drama studio being my most memorable as we sat in a room getting handed our Transit cards. I was able to tell that cliques were already starting to form. "The loud raunchy ones with comedic timing based humor.", "the totally gorjus girls EVERYONE AND THEIR MOM would have a crush on this year", "the girls who probably listen to Taylor Swift."(i don't know how to label them..) That was a day I'll remember for sure. ANYWAYS!! Time skip maybe 2 weeks after that I start talking to this boy who at first I had a lil "oh he's cute" which then uh..grew..we'll just say. In that time frame I managed to not only lose self-worth in myself but become more and more hateful to pretty girls around me. Which looking back now was the WORST thing I could've done for a boy. I saw pretty white girls with talent, big boobs blonde hair and a pretty face. As a black person I knew that I was already going to be second pick, making me even MORE insecure. 

 So everything I saw that I thought he would like I tried to be. Transforming myself and personality like a stylist flicks through their wardrobe, seeing which sayings would get the best reaction, seeing if I dress this way he would look at me more. I was completely boy CRAZY. Did this have a toll on my mental health? DUH DOY!1!!11 I didn't even know who I was when I liked him, and It's such a normalized thing for girls to need to do the most to get a guys attention. It's so normalized for everyone to have crushes, and situationships, and talking stages and girlfriends that sometimes we focus so much on the other person we barley have times for ourselves. I believe that the only person that was with you when you were BORN and will stay with you till YOU DIE, is YOU. You are the one whos know's the most about you. You are the one that's going to be there when nobody else is. And for kids to be completely devoidant of responsibilities to set their mind on someone who probably isn't even thinking about them is not only embarrassing, but teaches them what I call the relationship over responsibility construct. The relationship over responsibility construct is when kids who grew up hoping from relationship to relationship or centering their entire personality about a lover or a crush and they completely forget about their grades or their outside of personal/school life opportunities. Picture this..

 It's the second day of school and you spot this AMAZING LOOKING specimen who's sitting across the classroom from you. You think nothing of it so you continue your work though you can't help but steal a few glances from time to time during the lesson. Once class ends you continue on with your day. (You share no other classes.) 

*RINNNNGGGG*(bell sound)

Next day, you walk in and spot them again. This time they notice your gaze and smiles and waves back. So during the end of class you decide to follow them to their next class, the crowd covering your trail. Next thing you know you're changing routes to see them in the hallways. They are at the rank of "hallway crush". Sooner or later, you tell your friends about this person you've  been infatuated with. They tell you to talk to them but you claim to be too shy. (Not too shy to follow them to class though 🙄.) 

 Two Weeks later, You build up the courage to finally talk and they are super sweet. You start building a connection until one day after class they ask you something. "Wanna skip with me?" You are a straight B- kid who gets usually six to seven hours of rest each night. (iykyk) But I mean whats the worst that can happen? You skip and this causes your Global grade to go down (it was an assessment day but why would you give up talking to the person of your dreams?) 

Four Weeks later, you're regularly skipping classes watching you're grades slip BUT it's all worth it because you and fine shyt are now OFFICALLY DATING! I mean how cool is that? Nothing can possibly go wron-

Two months after your getting together..you broke up. Not only that but your transcript is HORRIBLE. D's and F's in ALL your classes. You start to wonder if he really loved you he wouldn't have made you skip all you're classes and would've prioritized your success as much as his own. I mean HOW are you gonna get into Yale now?!! Now you're left with a broken heart and a horrible transcript.

END OF SCENARIO!

I hope you're starting to see the vision. As I love to say.. BOOKS BEFORE BOYS AND GRADES BEFORE GIRLS!! A RELATIONSHIP IS TEMPERAORY YOUR TRANSCRIPT ISNT!! 

I lowkey think it's also the fault of social media and movies. Modern influences are already horrible on children but everywhere I see on my social are girls posting about how their love life is failing but really those grades are failing...not targeted but MAY be targeted. (its not I live a peaceful life gng)Okay, that concludes todays yap session/blog if you came this far DM me a strawberry or kudo or comment! If you have any feedback or anything my DMS are always open. ONWARDS AND OUT!!

P.S. I'm sorry for the wait!