enough about marriage!!

I just wrote an entry about this and then accidentally deleted it all FACK                                                                                                                                                                                       I was just saying, enough about marriage.                                                                                                                                                                                                                            Kate gave me a very lovely reality check yesterday when she told me most people do get into a few long term relationships before they find the person they wanna stay with. I thought to myself ah yes well I've been in 0 long term relationships and I'm 20 and in my first year of uni.                                                                                                                                                                     I keep on trying to just get it right the very first time but I don't think that's a very healthy mindset anymore.                                                                                                                                                                                          I do still think wanting to marry someone is a good indicator for a relationship, and I do still think a relationship is a little pointless if you just can't imagine marrying that person.                                                                                                                                                                         Like, imagine ur getting to know a new friend, and u go in thinking like yeaa we'll probably be friends for maybe 2-3 years but then it'll probably fall apart. Like, clearly there's something about them you don't like that you don't think is going to change, right? So what's the point in forcing that friendship?                                                                                                                                                            Equally, it'd be silly to avoid befriending someone just because you can see how it might end - like if I didn't make friends with Imogen just because she's from Cornwall and idk how much I'm gonna see her after uni etc etc. Like big fucking deal, I have a car?? We're at uni now and when we're older I'll get to go on sick summer holidays in Cornwall with Imogen. We'll keep in touch and make it work because we like each other, you know?                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Wow, was it really this simple all along? I feel like I've just been working myself up over it for no reason.                                                                                                                                 


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it’s the secret third thing, not dating to marry nor to break up, but to date for as long as it makes you both happy and enjoy each other’s company


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