Is gossiping a norm to the society?

DISCLAIMER: I'm talking about IRL society, NOT SPACEHEY and this is from my experiences too. I'm not really writing this just to share my opinion because obv I DON'T WANT THAT ≧⁰,⁰≦. But I really want other people's opinions on this topic because I'm pretty terrified. Anyways... Thank you! (I'm still learning so please give me advises or opinions.)

So yeah like I asked in the subject/name of blog.. "Is gossiping a norm to the society?" because it's everywhere, it's in every places. School, workplace, celebrating events, tragic events. Or it will just pop up in conversations likes a chit-chat, group project talk, teachers even gossip sometimes in the middle of the class and that's the only thing that students listen... even my grandma started gossiping about someone she hated 40 years ago while I was trying to have a quality time... 

they say "A friend is one who has the same enemies as you have.".. but does it mean that gossiping helps people getting along because it shows that they have the same opinion on something or someone??

The adults are real liars because they teach kids "Don't gossip because it is bad" while they talk shit about their employers or that one dude who was just living his life. Like- why can't y'all worry about your lives?

And the people who they gossip about... the victims, I don't know about all the people in the world, but there're a lot of people who don't like being talked behind their backs for sure. Especially when it creates a stressful environment or escalates to bullying the victims. 

One day when I was at school, I was in the optional class that I chose which was a dance class. There're only me and the group of popular kids in my grade (They actually like me somehow so we got along and so I got to learn about gossip more.). While some of they were talking(gossiping), I noticed the girl who was on her phone. I asked for her opinion about gossips since I saw it almost in my daily basis and gave my opinion about how I found gossiping a strange thing for me(I asked her because she also loves gossiping). She told me that 'in this world, everybody will gossip or be gossiped. Gossiping is a normal thing that people do and if I want to fit in with others like a "normal person", it is even better to gossip about people because it's fun and it's what everybody does.' ... I'm pretty sure that there's other way to get along with people though... Months later since I got along with that group (as a quiet kid..), they even invited me to gossip with them. The topic was about people they didn't like while working together for the sport event. For the first time, I tried to gossip and OH MY STARS I had no experiences so I tried REALLY HARD to think of something. Finally I thought of 2 juniors that were disrespectful and didn't help, I talked about it, they all laughed, talked shit about those juniors and kept talking, but I didn't, it was it, nothing more. I didn't feel entertained or better about myself at all, makes me confused and curious even more.

Even my boss gossips with other teachers that are her friends about parents, kids and so on. I tried not to get involved with the conversation because it seems more like an adult talk that I don't want to know. ಠ_ರೃ

In my school, there's a Literature books that we have to learn and all the subjects in the book are just stories or poems that the loyal family or old kings wrote in the pass 100 years ago. We were learning about the story named "Young Man's Heart". it was a fictional story that was published on newspapers in the past about the man who studied abroad in the Europe and returned to the homeland later. There's an episode that he divorced his wife because she had an affair with a fuckboy and they kept rubbing it against his face for weeks until they had sex... (yeah that's what we learned in class...) In that story, the man started getting comments from people in the town that he didn't even know or meet. The everyone in town said the same to him.

"Why divorce? It will being shame to your family because divorcing is a big thing, and big things bring attention to people. If you're so sick of your wife, why not have a second wife... or third? That way people will not gossip about you. It's better to have more wives than to be shamed by people." -Said the people in town in the story.

Personally... what the fuck? In the story, the man wasn't really bothered because he thought that it was his private life. Back to the reality, this story was like 100 years ago, but things like this still happen in the present and people even blame the victims for it because the victims brings attention to themselves..  It's their private lives though... what are we teaching people......

By what I said, yeah. I meant it.

There's one day in class, happened in the 10 minutes break before last class. I was drawing. Suddenly, there's a classmate slammed the door open in a rush like he was about to say something tragic. He said "THE COUPLES ARE FIGHTING IN THE HALL!" and suddenly everyone in the room rushed outside to gather around the fence of the second floor just to watch the couple argued (I didn't move an inch). From what I've heard, it's the guy from our year and his girlfriend(?) who is a junior. She was cussing angrily on him while he kept quiet and panicked. she said something along the line of "I hope your dick falls to the ground and rots!", my classmates were watching it like it's a TV show, some of them even took pictures and recorded them while the other people around that place just looked. My classmates called them husband and wife instead of just boyfriend and girlfriend for entertainment, but also to start rumors. (In here, calling the couple wife and husband in an informal term means that they already have intimacy, so they just started rumors about them doing it because they said that the dude was fat so it would be "fun"..) That girl was still in 8th grade...

In one of my blog named "This is a new kind of karma for bullies that I never thought would happen..." (you don't have to read it)  I mentioned about my old class, and they loved to gossip very much. At that time, there're I and another weird kid. I was fine since I started getting along with them while the other person kept getting hated more that everyone in the class would gossip. There was a tragic event that made her stopped coming to school (She tried to explain her side but nobody listened and kept framing her), the information about her quitting leaked to my science teacher, and that teacher did one of the thing that I will never forget.. something that despise me... he spilled the tea to the whole class about her quitting school and talked shit about her dad. Everyone in the class started listening carefully and gossip about it for a full month. And he did that JUST to GET ALONG with his students. (I think they told him that I was the only one who talk with her because there's the day I left to use the restroom, I didn't leave yet and listened to what he said from outside of the door and he was talking about her, everyone was laughing and shaming her.)

From these experiences, I still think that it's their businesses! let them do what they want with their lives. But somehow, it is becoming normal. What I learn is that it brings joy and entertainment to others, people use it to fit in the society or to make people agree with them.. I fear this will happen everywhere, I don't care for the gossipers but for the victims.. sure some people did really bad things that they got karma, but.. it's doesn't mean that you can talk shit about their struggles. I don't see how we talk about someone doing the deed with someone is a great way to make yourself smarter among others or anything like that.

If you have any experiences or thoughts that you want and feel comfortable to share, please do. I'm still learning. What I said here might be wrong and if you disagree with what I wrote, feel free to comment your thoughts, I will read it.

Still, I'm terrified.

Thank you. \ ˚▽˚ /