what ive done wrong vs what my parents have done wrong

me
-sharing "IT" online with a few people
-looking through "the" phone and computer ig
-being rude and genuinely not a nice person to my mother a few times (this is probably a fair few years ago though)
-ive done a fair bit wrong in the past but im trying to keep it in the whole family circle

mum
-calling me a liar, horrible, ruining a friendship
-gas-lighting me
-never apologising
-Parentification
-isolating me ("why would you tell your friends? theyll never understand how our family works")
-guilt tripping me into apologising
-refusing criticism
-looking through my phone, photos and laptop in a fit of anger
-telling me her past trauma in an attempt to guilt trip me
-saying i look awful, im ungrateful, unappreciative, i dont care, in a fit of anger
-taking away my technolgy when shes mad at me
-getting upset over the fact i dont tell her the things i dont like her doing, but when i do she brushes it off or gets upset if im too honest
-being weirdly insecure about me being trans and gay ("girls your age feel insecure" "you dont HAVE to find a label")
-buying ally pins off temu and then... not liking me lol
-wanting me to "fix her life" (shes never said this, but after 4 years of her weird crap its pretty clear what her overall intentions are)
-screaming at my younger brothers
-saying i dont deserve to change my room
-telling everyone i cant clean, i have bad hygiene and i have a horrible room
-not teaching me hygiene
-knowing im mentally ill and not helping me honestly lol. even using it to make her seem like the victim?

dad
-being jealous over a youtube i watched when i was 7-9 because he was more sucessful than he was (still thinks hes right)
-slapping my mum when i was 10 lol
-telling me i "wouldve been smarter if i didnt watch youtube" and it was NOT a joke (didnt apologise)
-screaming at me when i was 12 that "IVE SACRIFICED EVERYTHING FOR YOU CHILDREN"
-screaming at my younger brothers (but worse than mum)
-when i was 9 i think i told my grandma i felt like my younger brother wasnt really being punished properly. mightve been a dick move on my end but i was fucking 9. my grandma told my dad and i was outside in my dads office and i heard him screaming at my brother exetremely loudly and then he angrily told me "you think im not punishing him properly? well i did now"
-theres a lot of bad stuff he did that he did apologize for (unlike my mother). just wanna add that.
- telling me to go along with my mothers toxic behaviour to keep her happy.
-being suddenly very honest about sex and drugs recently. even saying stuff about my mother... ew.