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May 8, 2024
I just saw a video on tiktok about how Anxiety is suppressed anger and how we hide our anger through these emotions linked to anxiety such as overthinking and over self criticism and blaming yourself etc. and I just thought about how that makes sense.
When I feel angry, I just try to stop it and when I'm with other people, I try to divert my anger through laughter or making jokes, I'm pretty bad at it (I'm new to doing this, and I feel like I'm not convincing enough to the other person) but when I'm alone, I sort of blame myself for being angry and just find things that is wrong about myself to divert the reason. Like if I was angry on another person, I would think of something wrong with me and then I will cry about it.
Then I just realized how little my anxiety, especially social anxiety was before when I let out my anger towards other people, a bad person in short. But ofcourse, I cannot do that anymore, we are better than that so we'll find ways to deal with anger. the main one is maybe just scribling violently on a sketchbook and screaming.
I would definitely try these healthy anger release next time!
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mug!
I had DBT for 2 years and we mainly talked about how to deal with anger/what it is! And its kinda the opposite I suppose? According to the DBT i went to, anger is usually your mind and body going into defense/attack mode when it doesn't want to feel those (more painful) vulnerable emotions like fear, sadness, insecurity, shame/embarrassment, etc. So it makes sense to feel them when anxious. Basically a good strategy for anger is to leave the situation you're in to be in private, get in contact with the emotion beneath the anger, and (usually) cry to let it out and feel it. Along with that validating your own emotions along the way and regulating (which is usually the hardest part...).
When it came to anxiety we were basically taught exposure therapy, so whenever you felt those vulnerable feelings you were to take it as an opportunity to practice regulating and validating your emotions and do some logical reality-checking once your mind had calmed down (like looking at the situation from a really objektive perspective and notice what things your mind made up and what things were "real").
(idk if this helped but this post reminded me of it haha)
that makes more sense thanks so much! I'll keep this in mind!
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