how Minors sexualizing themselves leads to being a target - an Essay.

I might get shit for posting this from some random 13-year-old who calls themselves a bottom or pillow princess, but I do not care as this needs to be talked about. 

Minors please do not sexualize yourself so openly and call yourself sexual terms, do not share your kinks or other things, as much as you want to claim, “even if some creep slid into my dms I know what to do” Okay?? That doesn’t matter it’s YOUR actions that cause that predator to think it was okay. I know this from experience. 

I recently turned 18 in July so I'm still a little new to this adulting thing but when I was between the ages of 11-17, I was exposed to a lot of sexual content from family members and people on the internet turning me into a different person. I had a Porn addiction at the age of 12, When I was on Amino, my first Amino was a yaoi amino where I roleplayed sexual situations with people much older than me, I made accounts where I called myself a bottom or that I like dominate men, which in turn caused me to get groomed several times, let me share to you a story. 

When I was on the Yaoi amino (before people were calling out the freak behavior on the app) I met someone who we’ll call Felix, at the time I think Felix was 18 and I was 13, they helped me a lot with creating my first OC and teaching me how to do more Semi-lit, multi-paragraph roleplay styles, we had a little group with my friend, Zen, who I met through Felix, Zen was around 16 years old at the time, we became a little roleplay trio, but it started to get sexual in the group, Felix would send us Yaoi and do OOC sexual roleplays with us even mention how they wanted to have sex with us we saw nothing wrong it at the time and continued to be friends with Felix but a time went on Felix became more distant with me personally and put focus more on Zen and caused me a lot of mental distress which was not at all good for a relationship between a middle schooler and a whole adult. As time went on Felix entirely cut me from the trio and basically kicked me out from the roleplays which really made me feel worthless. 

See how this is bad for someone as young as I was to grow such an emotional attachment to someone like this now onto the present day, I had recently got back into Contact with Felix through Zen after me and Zen rekindled our friendship and talked about everything that went on the trio realizing we were in fact being groomed by them, I tried to talk to Felix calmly about everything but they kept deflecting and putting the blame on me, even saying we just “fell out” of our friendship. 

Now the internet has so many examples of minors sexualizing themselves and becoming a target or entire Aesthetics centered around sexualizing your younger self (some would say it’s the Coquette fashion and lifestyle and really depends on what type of coquette people you meet), people calling themselves Lolis and Shotas, using terms like bottom or switch on themselves, using terms like Sub or Dom, even going as far as calling themselves Uke, Seme, Seke (iykyk) 

Onto a big thing that goes on in twitter (or X) that not a lot of people talk about it MNSFW twitter which is basically Minor NSWF twitter in which Minors interact in sexual spaces with other “Minors.” now I put “Minors” in quotes because you do not know who in fact is behind that screen that 15 year old Sophie who’s into BDSM and a self-proclaimed Pillow Princess might in fact be 45 year old Jeffery from Michigan trying to solicit nudes from minors, things like these SHOULD NOT be supported at all, it’s not at all okay for minors to be doing these type of things and shouldn’t be encouraged as it’s literally ILLEGAL for minors to sext and send/receive sexual content as sometimes it can literally be child pornography. I wish there were better laws or protections to stop this but unfortunately there's only so much the government can do. 

All I wish for is for people under the age of 18 to be more mindful when it comes to being sexual and/or entering sexual spaces online because it’s not safe at all for them because this is the internet you don’t know who is behind that screen, 14 year old transmasc bisexual Elliot you meet on discord might be 67 year old Geoffery trying to do some creepy ass ERP. 

So all I ask is minors, please be safe online.