How do I look good without my mom or ppl at school thinking im a whore>?
HI so uh..... How do I look good without my mom thinking I'm tryna be a whore?
like... I've NEVR rlly put any effort into my looks until kinda just recently, but if I try to go all out like I don't want to look weird or look like I'm trying too hard
also, how tf do I style my hair? like I wanna so I hopefully get more confidence and can post pictures of myself online without worrying abt how I look (also I don't have the $ for hairspray or anything)
also how do you "keep" styled hair. like the second you step in the shower it's just gonna go away so whatever many hours or $ you spent to get it done is just down the drain right?
also sorry for the shitty page It's 1:50 AM and I quickly threw it together. wish you could add music to it though... pretend there's some awesome music plaiyng :p
So, this is pretty vague and hard to answer, but here’s a long list of tips:
1. Keep your needs in mind while picking looks. Do you need to be comfy? Do you want to avoid attention? Like… what do you want, what are your values? (Write them down)
2. Look for hairstyle inspo and watch tutorials on how to achieve the style.
3. You can get into color season and body type analysis if that interests you. It can help you narrow down makeup, hair, and attire.
4. Wear a shower cap to keep your hairstyle. When you wash your hair the style will fall out unless your style is braids or a perm. I wouldn’t recommend keeping your braids in while washing unless you have kinky-textured hair, it could cause matting.
5. Since you can’t buy hairspray, you should keep in mind that if you curl your hair your curls may fall out throughout the day. Up-do’s and styles using your natural hair pattern will not act this way.
6. Keep your back straight, shoulders back, and head up when you walk or sit. Faking confidence will make you feel confident, and other people can’t tell the difference (they will treat you like your confident, which will also probably make you feel more confident). Also look people in the eye.
7. Post pictures! Like I said, people don’t know the difference between feigned confidence and the real deal. Additionally, If you post pictures like you don’t care what others think, that action can reaffirm (to yourself) that you are actually confident, and you may start believing it —a Self-fulfilling prophecy.
8. Throughout the process of finding what works, make a list of things you really enjoy(ed) about certain hair/makeup/clothing, and things that you want to avoid. Think about actual design elements of the clothing, how they look on you, and how they make you feel, try to be specific. With hair/makeup, your comments will likely center more around face framing. Think about Practicality and comfortability as well.
“I don't want to look weird or look like I'm trying too hard” confident people care less about how we are being judged. Honestly, I wouldn’t wear half the stuff I wear if I cared about other people POSSIBLY judging me negatively. If they don’t get it then they’re not aligned with me. I don’t care about trivial negative judgement, because I like myself. I’m assuming you’re in highschool, so your peers judgement probably matters to you more than it will in the future. Also, keep in mind that you can also get positive judgement and find people who align with you by being yourself.
So how to keep your hair up without hair spray is taking a shower and washing your hair brushing it then messing it up with a towel and then you can dry it with a hair dryer but if you dont have one you can use a fan but you'll have to brush it at least twice a day so you don't get knots of course the more you go through your day it'll slowly go down just fix it up in the mirror then repeat btw you don't have to brush your hair out after you've showered but it'll make it last longer if you do
wear what you want and what you like, don't try to change your appearance just because of your mother or other people, you really should look great in what you wear. And on your hair you can use a good shampoo, the one I use and it looks nice on me is head & shoulders but I don't know if they sell it where you live, you can look for a good one that doesn't cost so much money. :)
if anyone hates on you just so you know they're literally just puritans.
as for the hair, try doing it right in the morning before school, and try to take the shower BEFORE you style your hair, as someone else already said. As for how to keep it styled without using hairspray, it really just depends on your hair type and the look you're going for. but if you cant get hairspray, some kinds of shampoo/conditioner can do the trick as well.
tbh just ignore ur mom if she just shitin on u ,,, for styled hair idrk i dont do my hair bc idk wtf im doing but like get a shower cap so it dont get wet and adjust it when u get out the shower maybe? id just style ur hair everyday. for school wear wht u want but make it up to dress code,, if a shirt is too low wear a tank top under or wear leggings if ur jeans got too many holes or ur skirt too short. just do whatever or like if ur insecure fix what u dont like thats in ur ability to fix if it makes u more confident. but like just be urself or make the best version of urself ,, idk man
REJECT EVERYONE ELSES STANDARDS. EMBRACE CHAOS. YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU WANT FOREVER!!! my advice is: go all out. be the weird kid. its actually an automatic people sorting strategy bc then you will attract more fun people. last year one of my friends dressed like a 'whore' and they had kandi and they had cat and bunny ears and they were so so cool. i was determined this year to be the cool gay senior like they were last year and so far it is turning out great. if anyone else thinks youre weird just say have a nice day and move on.
abt keeping ur hair styled, unfortunately it's pretty much impossible if u shower evry night or wash ur hair frequently. just waking up a little earlier to do ur hair pays off so much, and makes ur shower routine easier.my best advice is to learn how ur hair works. play with it and see how u liek it! try to find the easiest way 2 style ur hair how u want and keep that going. figuring out how my hair works by just moving it around with a brush made my hair look 1000x better. AND i figured out that my only problem was that i wasn't parting my hair correctly :,)
gud luck! and make sure ur dressing for u, not any1 else.
nah i feel u. it’s like in the mall there’s a lot of ppl but less eyes on you but in school it’s the complete opposite, still struggling with getting over that myself.
✩ haiii! i uzed 2 be super not-dressy and hated putting effort in my outfits too... it can be a slower process but itz alwayz worth it! it makez ur life have a little bit more meaning [something to focus on, motivate you to go out, confidence boosting, etc.]
now u dont need makeup, or ur butt hanging out 2 look GOOD. thatz alwayz a misconception! id say the firzt step is: find what you like. who ur outfit inspos are.
for example: someones outfit inspo/style inspo is... emo! how can we break that down and add it to their style without being complicated?
first u gotta find whats in your closet! already have black jeans? or maybe an array of tank tops? we can totally make an outfit already! d.i.y also helps a TON.
i recommend watching 'acidmilk' on youtube for help and tips!! they explain stylization and diy soo well! and they make amazing kandi + thrift vidz :3
second: self care. self care can be super tough if youre used to being depressed or lazy. i started my self care journey through VERY simply skincare and lotion. nothing fancy! just trying to wash your face every night, and trying to find lotion or perfume that makes you FEEL good always. always. improves your mood and self esteem. i cannot stress enough how worth it is!!!
wear whatever the hell you want man!! itll look good if youre comfortable in it!! other people's opinions shouldnt dictate what YOU feel comfortable wearing.
im sorry that happens :( (imo) tbh the best thing you can do is, you can ignore your mom snd other people bc its protectory. people and probably your mom have heard of it and heard it being told to them and want to make you feel the way they did. this is probly gonna sound cheesy but just remember to keep your head up and dont let anyone else bring you down to their level... hope this helps :)
I mean I usually just wore a T-shirt, black jeans, and either a grommet or studded belt. Now I just don't have the energy and just wear jeans and a hoodie
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Miss Victoria
So, this is pretty vague and hard to answer, but here’s a long list of tips:
1. Keep your needs in mind while picking looks. Do you need to be comfy? Do you want to avoid attention? Like… what do you want, what are your values? (Write them down)
2. Look for hairstyle inspo and watch tutorials on how to achieve the style.
3. You can get into color season and body type analysis if that interests you. It can help you narrow down makeup, hair, and attire.
4. Wear a shower cap to keep your hairstyle. When you wash your hair the style will fall out unless your style is braids or a perm. I wouldn’t recommend keeping your braids in while washing unless you have kinky-textured hair, it could cause matting.
5. Since you can’t buy hairspray, you should keep in mind that if you curl your hair your curls may fall out throughout the day. Up-do’s and styles using your natural hair pattern will not act this way.
6. Keep your back straight, shoulders back, and head up when you walk or sit. Faking confidence will make you feel confident, and other people can’t tell the difference (they will treat you like your confident, which will also probably make you feel more confident). Also look people in the eye.
7. Post pictures! Like I said, people don’t know the difference between feigned confidence and the real deal. Additionally, If you post pictures like you don’t care what others think, that action can reaffirm (to yourself) that you are actually confident, and you may start believing it —a Self-fulfilling prophecy.
8. Throughout the process of finding what works, make a list of things you really enjoy(ed) about certain hair/makeup/clothing, and things that you want to avoid. Think about actual design elements of the clothing, how they look on you, and how they make you feel, try to be specific. With hair/makeup, your comments will likely center more around face framing. Think about Practicality and comfortability as well.
“I don't want to look weird or look like I'm trying too hard” confident people care less about how we are being judged. Honestly, I wouldn’t wear half the stuff I wear if I cared about other people POSSIBLY judging me negatively. If they don’t get it then they’re not aligned with me. I don’t care about trivial negative judgement, because I like myself. I’m assuming you’re in highschool, so your peers judgement probably matters to you more than it will in the future. Also, keep in mind that you can also get positive judgement and find people who align with you by being yourself.
Eliza
So how to keep your hair up without hair spray is taking a shower and washing your hair brushing it then messing it up with a towel and then you can dry it with a hair dryer but if you dont have one you can use a fan but you'll have to brush it at least twice a day so you don't get knots of course the more you go through your day it'll slowly go down just fix it up in the mirror then repeat btw you don't have to brush your hair out after you've showered but it'll make it last longer if you do
celena
wear what you want and what you like, don't try to change your appearance just because of your mother or other people, you really should look great in what you wear. And on your hair you can use a good shampoo, the one I use and it looks nice on me is head & shoulders but I don't know if they sell it where you live, you can look for a good one that doesn't cost so much money. :)
malachiteMalice
if anyone hates on you just so you know they're literally just puritans.
as for the hair, try doing it right in the morning before school, and try to take the shower BEFORE you style your hair, as someone else already said. As for how to keep it styled without using hairspray, it really just depends on your hair type and the look you're going for. but if you cant get hairspray, some kinds of shampoo/conditioner can do the trick as well.
Caytie♡
tbh just ignore ur mom if she just shitin on u ,,, for styled hair idrk i dont do my hair bc idk wtf im doing but like get a shower cap so it dont get wet and adjust it when u get out the shower maybe? id just style ur hair everyday. for school wear wht u want but make it up to dress code,, if a shirt is too low wear a tank top under or wear leggings if ur jeans got too many holes or ur skirt too short. just do whatever or like if ur insecure fix what u dont like thats in ur ability to fix if it makes u more confident. but like just be urself or make the best version of urself ,, idk man
Nia ★🎸🎧⋆｡ °⋆
u shouldn't care abt other people's opinion, you should feel confident in ur clothes, skin, with ur hairstyle etc. just be urself and shine <3
furbyz0ntheRADi0_
REJECT EVERYONE ELSES STANDARDS. EMBRACE CHAOS. YOU CAN DO WHATEVER YOU WANT FOREVER!!!
my advice is: go all out. be the weird kid. its actually an automatic people sorting strategy bc then you will attract more fun people. last year one of my friends dressed like a 'whore' and they had kandi and they had cat and bunny ears and they were so so cool. i was determined this year to be the cool gay senior like they were last year and so far it is turning out great. if anyone else thinks youre weird just say have a nice day and move on.
??????????????? i don’t like sports actually
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vic_zombi3
abt keeping ur hair styled, unfortunately it's pretty much impossible if u shower evry night or wash ur hair frequently. just waking up a little earlier to do ur hair pays off so much, and makes ur shower routine easier.my best advice is to learn how ur hair works. play with it and see how u liek it! try to find the easiest way 2 style ur hair how u want and keep that going. figuring out how my hair works by just moving it around with a brush made my hair look 1000x better. AND i figured out that my only problem was that i wasn't parting my hair correctly :,)
gud luck! and make sure ur dressing for u, not any1 else.
dethconi
wear what you want and wear it for you. not anyone else
I can go out to the mall wearing outfits with some confidence. I just can’t at school y’know?
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nah i feel u. it’s like in the mall there’s a lot of ppl but less eyes on you but in school it’s the complete opposite, still struggling with getting over that myself.
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BUNNY
✩ haiii! i uzed 2 be super not-dressy and hated putting effort in my outfits too... it can be a slower process but itz alwayz worth it! it makez ur life have a little bit more meaning [something to focus on, motivate you to go out, confidence boosting, etc.]
now u dont need makeup, or ur butt hanging out 2 look GOOD. thatz alwayz a misconception! id say the firzt step is: find what you like. who ur outfit inspos are.
for example: someones outfit inspo/style inspo is... emo! how can we break that down and add it to their style without being complicated?
first u gotta find whats in your closet! already have black jeans? or maybe an array of tank tops? we can totally make an outfit already! d.i.y also helps a TON.
i recommend watching 'acidmilk' on youtube for help and tips!! they explain stylization and diy soo well! and they make amazing kandi + thrift vidz :3
second: self care. self care can be super tough if youre used to being depressed or lazy. i started my self care journey through VERY simply skincare and lotion. nothing fancy! just trying to wash your face every night, and trying to find lotion or perfume that makes you FEEL good always. always. improves your mood and self esteem. i cannot stress enough how worth it is!!!
i hope thiz helped :3
mitty
wear whatever the hell you want man!! itll look good if youre comfortable in it!! other people's opinions shouldnt dictate what YOU feel comfortable wearing.
tell them to fuck off if theyre judgemental!!
thanks :)
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camila
im sorry that happens :( (imo) tbh the best thing you can do is, you can ignore your mom snd other people bc its protectory. people and probably your mom have heard of it and heard it being told to them and want to make you feel the way they did. this is probly gonna sound cheesy but just remember to keep your head up and dont let anyone else bring you down to their level... hope this helps :)
and also abt your hair being styled, just spray on hairspray and hope for the best lol
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xx_3m1_xx
Try to look for certain styles that make you feel comfortable and mix them up, remember, you won't look like a whore :3
𝐻𝒜𝐼𝐿𝐸𝒴 𝒢𝐿𝒪𝒪𝑀𝐼𝐸
honestly, you can look cool/good without having your tits and butt out. what style are you going for?
I mean I usually just wore a T-shirt, black jeans, and either a grommet or studded belt. Now I just don't have the energy and just wear jeans and a hoodie
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Ahhh I see. Maybe you could loop your belt around the jeans that you’re going to wear the night before?
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Guh
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layshaa
welt you prob shouldnt take a shower after styling ur hair perioddd
-love laysh ;)