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Finally making a BYF thing

Um, I'm not really gonna have a proper DNI list, just don't be racist, homophobic, ableist, etc. No, not even to those people. Discrimination makes you an asshole, full stop. This means you don't misgender people who you think "deserve it", and you criticise ACTIONS instead of making fun of a bad person's appearance, and you don't assume people are monsters based on a mental health diagnosis. Thanks

I am 15 (nearly 16) and would prefer any new friends to also be around my age range (14-18) but I don't mind too much if you're not. I'll probably not feel comfortable if you're like twice my age though, nothing against you personally it's just a comfort thing.

I am autistic and can struggle with a lot of social cues. I do not usually ask questions back (eg. "I'm good, how are you?") so if you wanna tell me about your day or anything, don't think you can't just cause I didn't ask you to.

I have hyperfixations. If you friend me for one fandom, then I'm most likely not going to be super into that fandom in a few months, but I still have a passive interest in all of my past hyperfixations so I won't be totally disconnected from the fandom you friended me for.

Despite me having the "First 5k app users" badge, I do not use the mobile app. I literally only downloaded it to get the special badge 'cause it makes me feel special. That's to say, if you expect me to respond quickly to Instant Messages or whatever else because you think I have the app and notifications on, don't.

Boundaries

Don't censor stuff for me that I haven't explicitly said I'm uncomfortable with, I will view it as infantilisation due to past experiences and not want to talk to you. (Anything that multiple people can see like blogs and bulletin posts do not count, I'm talking about when we're having a private conversation.)

I don't go to school. Do not call me lucky for it. I'm not getting into detail, but to put it shortly, it feels invalidating. You can complain about your school in other contexts, but if you mention how your school sucks shortly after I mention how I don't go to school, I will probably assume it's an indirect way of calling me lucky, so please wait a bit if you feel like talking about that.

Don't ask me to draw for you unless we're either close friends or you can provide something in return (i.e. money, art trade, etc.)

Don't sexualise me (I'm 15), jokes are okay if we're friends and close in age (14-16) but don't take it too far.


That's all I can really think of for now. I'll update this later if I find anything of importance. Thx 4 reading ^_^


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