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online safety and underage users

this is a repost. original blog by lemiso

age

putting your age in your bio isn't inherently dangerous, however it has the potential of signalling to malicious people that this user is more vulnerable. for example, if a user has "13" in their bio, they are more likely to be a target than someone who has "minor" in their bio, as that could mean any age between 13-17 (assuming they are following site policy).

this becomes highly dangerous when that user is less than 13 years of age. i have seen people with ages as young as 10 on their profile, which have luckily been removed. although spacehey moderation is usually pretty on-the-ball, their profiles have the capability to exist for long enough for someone malicious to reach out. the younger a user is, the more dangerous it is for them to reveal information regarding their age - which is almost always an indicator of maturity/vulnerability.

if you, reading this, are under the age of this site policy, you are not "mature" enough to use it. you think you are at that age - everybody does - but you genuinely are not. you will look back on yourself in 2 or 3 years and realise that fact and how vulnerable you actually were. we have all been there lmao

mental illnesses

i fully support the discussion of mental illness when relevant in communities. it is important to reach out to those with similar experiences in order to feel less alone.

however, making your mental illnesses public information (such as in your about me, etc) also flags you as vulnerable. there is almost no reason to list your mental illnesses like you're collecting pokemon cards. strangers do not need to know that you have BPD, bipolar, schizophrenia and DID. if any average joe could access this information, imagine how easily this information could reach the hands of someone who knew how to take advantage of it.

once again, the dangers of listing this information is amplified the younger the user is. at a younger age, you may not have established support networks, so just having anyone there to listen to you - regardless of who it is - is something that you're more likely to crave. therefore, you're putting yourself at risk, once again, to someone who will take advantage of that feeling of isolation.

triggers

based on my arguments up above, i presume you know where i'm going with this one. triggers are probably the most dangerous pieces of information you can put on your profile. sure, the good people will know to avoid those topic areas, but you're only opening yourself up to all kinds of possible harassment.

not everybody will give you the attention and sympathy you crave for being "brave enough" to share these. most people will not even care. and the people that do take note of it are more likely to be those looking to, once again, take advantage of those aspects of you.

ANYTHING sexual

unless you've specifically verified that your profile/post is for those over an age of law restriction (ie: 18, 21, etc.), discussion of sexual topics should be kept to an absolute minimum unless for education purposes.

i cannot believe i have to say this, but if you are under the age of consent, do not post ANY sexual content. this could mean blogs talking about kinks, stating that you're hypersexual on your profile, or just posting anything of a lewd nature.

this is ridiculously obvious, but it is abhorrent to see this becoming an actual issue.

other thoughts

having this knowledge is all fine and dandy, and i am sure deep down these self-sabotaging morons know all of this too. however, many - particularly underage users - adopt an "i'm more mature so i can handle discussions of those topics", or "i could never get groomed! i'm too mature!"

yes, even you -- random person who has done all of the listed things above and continues to ignore this word of warning because you think you are so mature. everybody thinks they are at any age. if you're underage, look back at yourself from 2 years ago. if you recognise how much of an idiot you were back then, congratulations: you're normal. you will look back at your current self in 2 years time and think the exact same thing.

anybody can be groomed. anybody has the potential to be groomed. do not increase your risk of becoming a walking target because you think you could handle a situation which puts your safety at risk.

bring back those crazy scary web safety PSAs!! lmaoo


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