Soul-Ties

The Bible speaks of what is today known as soul ties. In the Bible, it doesn't use the word soul tie, but it speaks of them when it talks about souls being knit together, becoming one flesh, etc.  

A soul tie can serve many functions, but in it's simplest form, it ties two souls together in the spiritual realm. Soul ties between married couples draw them together like magnets, while soul ties between those who had sex outside of marriage can draw a beaten and abused woman to the man which in the natural realm she would hate and run from, but instead she runs to him even though he doesn't love her, and treats her like dirt.

Good Soul-Ties are commonly created in marriage and healthy friendships (ex. Malachi 2:15; Genesis 2:24, 1 Chronicles 12:17, Colossians 2:2). Godly soul ties are formed when a couple are married (Ephesians 5:31, "For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh."), and the Godly soul tie between a husband and the wife that God intended him to have is unbreakable by man (Mark 10:7-9). King David and Jonathan had a good soul tie as a result of a good friendship (1 Samuel 18:1, "And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.").

Bad Soul-Ties are formed when a person has sexual relations outside of marriage (1 Corinthians 6:16, "What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh."). This soul tie fragments the soul, and is destructive. People who have many past relationships find it very difficult to 'bond' or be joined to anybody, because their soul is fragmented. Bad form soul ties are formed through sinful relationships such as fornication (even fantasizing about sex forms bonds) and even sexual activities such as watching, collecting and distributing porn and sexual objects/fetishes. Sexual abuse and molestation also forms bad soul ties that need to be broken. Unhealthy relationships form soul ties as well. Examples include relationships characterized by manipulation, guilt, emotional abuse, co-dependency, unnatural affection, envy and/or lust. Bad soul ties can form from bad friendships as well. Even idolizing somebody can cause a bad soul tie.

Vows are known to bind the soul (Numbers 30:2), marriage itself consists of vows and binds the two people together (Ephesians 5:31), The concept of promises, vows, commitments and agreements create soul-ties in the spiritual realm.

How To Tell That You Have A Bad Soul Tie

Ask the Lord: Take a moment to ask God in prayer to show you if you have soul ties that need to be severed. If the Lord brings people to mind or you think there is a possibility of a soul tie, proceed to pray to cut the soul tie.

Look at the fruit: A way to determine the nature of a soul tie is to examine its fruit (Matthew 7:16-18). Good soul ties will bear good fruit; examples being love, blessing, fidelity, loyalty, honor, righteousness, etc. The overall effect of the good soul tie will be to strengthen our emotional wholeness and our walk with God. Bad soul ties will bear bad fruit, examples being hatred, resentment, curses, manipulation, anger, strife, jealousy, control, bitterness, etc. The overall effect of bad soul ties will be to hold us back from enjoying our relationship with God and to keep us in bondage to whatever we struggle with.

How To Break A Soul Tie

1. If any sins were committed to cause this soul tie, repent of them! Fornication (sex before marriage) is one of the most common bad soul ties.

2. If gifts were given to you by the other person in connection with the sin or unholy relationship, such as rings, flowers, cards, bras, etc, get rid of them! Such things symbolize the ungodly relationship, and can hold a soul tie in place. If you repented of the ungodly relationship with that person and are no longer fornicating with them then don't have to destroy the kind of gifts that would be wrong to give to each other before marriage. You should however, destroy gifts such as flowers, love letters, bra and panties with his initials on them, sex toys etc.

3. Any rash vows or commitments made that played a part in forming the soul tie should be renounced and repented of, and broken in Jesus' name. Even things like "I will love you forever", or "I could never love another man!" need to be renounced. They are spoken commitments that need to be undone verbally. As Proverbs 21:23 tells us, "Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles." The tongue has the ability to bring the soul great troubles and bondage.

4. Forgive that person if you have anything against them.

5. Renounce the soul tie. Do this verbally, and in Jesus' name. Example, "In Jesus' name, I now renounce any ungodly soul ties formed between myself and ______ as a result of _______________ (fornication, etc.)."