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Being a Black Gay Man
Hello beautiful people. Today, I wanted to talk about my personal experience as a black, gay male. It has been challenging. The journey towards finding myself has been tough. Growing up I was taught to hate myself. I was always bullied for my looks or for how I had a "girl" voice. Because of the fact that I had hated myself when I was younger, I went through avenues that I should not have gone through to feel that love.
Being black and gay is a beautiful thing. God made me this way. It took a while for me to accept it, but here I am. In the black community, homophobia is common. In the gay community (In particular), colorism and racism are common as well. I don't fit the conventional beauty standards of the gay community. I'm dark-skinned, not ripped with abs, and I am a total nerd. Then, I realized that I had to remind myself that I set my own beauty standard. There is someone out there for me who will love and cherish all this chocolate. LMAO!!!
I don't fit in cause I am meant to stand out. I know blessings are going to be coming my way soon. Despite everything I have been through and put myself through, I can wake up in the morning and find the beauty within life itself. I am encouraging everyone to find a support system regardless of if it's IRL or online. I am still a work in progress, but I know the destination of my journey will be amazing.
Thank you all for reading this LOOOOOOONNNNGGGGGGG blog post.
P.S.: If you've watched Real Housewives of Atlanta (RHOA) Season 4, then you'll understand why I put the gif at the top.
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Sean
This is very brave, man. Kudos to you (literally) for posting this and making yourself so vulnerable. This is what SpaceHey is all about... ACTUALLY being social and connecting with people on a level above likes and shares.
Thank you so much for this comment. I want y’all to get to know who I am and know a little bit of my story. People judge others (myself included), but we don’t know each other’s story or why someone does what they do. So this comment made my night so thank you lots🙌🏿🙏🏿
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◤adam◢
this is beautifully said, samie. i love how you said you set your own standards and how you can recognize the beauty in life. that's the way it should be! feel free to chat anytime x
Thank you. You are so kind. I feel as if setting your own beauty standard breeds a healthier relationship with yourself. Thank you for commenting.
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