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i finished uni not too long ago, well actually my final exams for the first year. but theres still something i think about.
one of the topics for my exams was emotions. the short context is that we basically build the world around us with words and language, and language is what lets us express anything we want to, like people do in this website. but language is very limiting (at least i think so) which makes it so that sometimes you cant really express what you feel, because words dont do justice to your feelings. and thats a real thing in psychology.
language is what helps us to express emotions, and it was so sad to read that when you cant do it - express emotions through language - emotions dont feel as real, because you are unable to put them out there yk.
another topic we studied was atraction. we learnt that being in a relationship involves like three steps:
1. expressing what you want, what you need & what you expect from the other person
2. opening up and sharing your feelings
3. when a relationship forms, your feelings start mixing with those of your partners
so when a relationship ends, its not because you stop loving the person (not exactly), but because something changed in you. you shared so many things with that person, specially when a relationship has go on for so long, that breaking up might be hard (and its hard a lot of times) because you have to assume the fact that you have changed, that you are someone else and thats why you dont fit anymore with that person.
i feel like both things are true. but ive seen people talk about how to keep a long relationship or marriage, and its that you have to realize you have to learn to love all the different people your partner is gonna become and vice versa. which i think makes it possible to stay with someone for a long time, as long as you both learn to love each other and the versions of each other that continue to appear and change during the relationship. its not all black & white.
this went on a bit too long :0, but i like talking about this stuff. hoping i didnt bore anyone out !!
goodnight <3
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Yaria
I love reading about this type of stuff it's so interesting to see the psychology views on more personal/intimate matters and how it can actually affect someone during their growth as a person
YEAH ME TOO!! its not like i despise statistics and numbers and graphics and generalized percentages. but theres something about the individualist psychology that focus on the person and talks about how individual circumstances and experiences are important that make me feel so warm. like recognising we are our own person and theres things about us that cant be generalized and put out there like mere numbers
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oh yeah you get it! It feels much better to learn more about how our minds work and it's just more fascinating to educate yourself about it, so then you're like 'oh so this is why I did this and that and that's why that happened' it's just eye-opening, I think this is why I got too deep at doing a lot of research on cognitive functions and all that.
whenever things are more focused and highlighted on one individual it just gets more interesting in my opinion, I really like these types of studies, especially since expressing my emotions is a big no no for me so it can totally hit hard too lol
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