Solita.

With the exception of my sisters who are my very best friends…most of my homies are guys. It’s been like that my whole life. I grew up around all men and they’d treat me like one of them😭 despite that, I’m entirely feminine, but am used to having majority male friends. I’m able to blend into any group or environment as long as it’s welcoming, but I genuinely get shocked when I successfully make and keep a female friend.

I cherish those friendships to the best of my ability because it’s RARE I have a good friendship with another woman that isn’t related to me. I put them over any man at all times because of my love for us in general.

I’ve never been one to crave validation from these sorry ass men. I have a dad in my life💀 and my head on straight. 

Why is it that every time I befriend a woman, they do one of the following:

A. Treat me like I’m competition and act damn near jealous when I get male attention, even from my friends that I’ve known since diapers.

B. Nitpick the tiniest and most insignificant shit to call me out on for no reason at all, as if they’d been waiting to do it for a while and kept the animosity to themselves

C. Want to strip me of my whole character and turn me into a carbon copy of them

D. Talk shit about me behind my back and tell everyone BUT me what their problem with me is exactly

E. Try to take advantage of my niceness and vulnerability

F. Expect shit from me that’s outside of my character completely then make an unnecessary big deal out of me having morals for myself and my life

or G. Don’t understand why most of my friends are guys and see me as a “pick me”, a slut, desperate, or an attention whore.

It’s been a repeated cycle of one or more of these for years now.

Prime example, my last friendship was with a woman who was unbelievable. She had her own place, her own car, a job, everything. We both made money together and whatever anyone needed, we had each other’s backs. Suddenly, out of the blue

I only expect transparency, reliability, communication and prosperity from any friendship I have. 

Pardon my extra french, but I’m at a point where I don’t feel the need to explain myself to these stubborn ass bitches who don’t bother to evaluate themselves before speaking. I’m sick of these entitled bitches who want my world to revolve around them and them only when I have my own shit to deal with. And most importantly, I’m done with these crazy, toxic bitches who don’t understand that not everyone wants to keep dwelling on the past, always being negative and holding people’s mistake against them 24/7.