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You know the sort. Menfolk who want to chat you up and hopefully have some sexy private message time.
They're annoying and about as subtle as a turd in a punchbowl.
Here's a short list of red flags for spotting them from the start:
Little to no info on their profile.
No blog posts, no bulletin posts, no forum topics.
You've never seen them comment on anyone else's bulletins.
All of the people on their friends' list are women.
If you do happen to friend one of these types, they'll PM you straight away without commenting on anything external, nor will they have read your profile regardless of how prominently you post about not being interested in such things.
The PM will be some variation of "hey" "what's up?" "hru", with very very little personal engagement until they 'hint' at what they're about. The 'subtle' ones are so painfully obvious as to be laughable.
Calling them out makes them mad, they'll usually storm off on their own in a huff, but it's usually not worth the time.
Just block and move on. Even better if you warn folks as well.
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Nightfall
I know this is an old post, but I’ll leave a comment anyway, just to validate all that you wrote, as a female who’s been through it all.
The best part is when they block you at the end, but not before telling you just how boring you are.
The post is old, but I hope it helps you spot them before 'friending' them!
If one does slip through, don't wait for them to block you. Block them at the first hint of creepiness, you owe them nothing
by Cranky Old Witch; ; Report
Zigzag Buster 🇺🇦
I’ve been experiencing a rather bizarre phenomenon where women and girls who say that they are afraid of being contacted by men somehow don’t have any problem with me communicating with them. Is it just me or am I actually getting trusted just by being asexual?
Women don't mind communicating with men. They DO mind creepy behavior of clumsy, unwelcome innuendoes (or more direct come-ons) from the outset of a conversation.
Perhaps, you speak to women just like we're regular human beings and not here to fulfill your sexual fantasies.
by Cranky Old Witch; ; Report
No offense, but that comment of yours sounds more like an indictment on the behavior of men than a compliment for me.
by Zigzag Buster 🇺🇦; ; Report
It's not intended as an indictment on men, just an indictment on the creepy behavior of SOME men on social media (and every woman has encountered it. Every one.)
But that is the theme of this particular blog post, hence the reply relating to that, vis-a-vis, in relation to your comment juxtaposed with that.
I love men, some of my closest friends are men, and there's a difference between that and the creepy behavior of practical strangers
Hope that helps clarify!
by Cranky Old Witch; ; Report
Oh... I already knew that you weren’t indicting men, just the behavior of specific men. My only question is what motivates a man to behave this way with women in the first place? The reason why I ask is because sexual objectification is a topic that’s been haunting me for so long that I wrote two articles about feminism that involved it. https://blog.spacehey.com/entry?id=1123019
by Zigzag Buster 🇺🇦; ; Report
metalnerd
okay but like what if i dont have any bulletins or blogs or whatever is because i dont know what they are or what to do with them
It's a red flag, not the whole of the situation. How you react when someone accepts a friend request is what speaks volumes.
No, bulletins and blogs and so forth are not any ultimate sign, but please understand the women are regularly targeted by creepers and caution is advised for all.
by Cranky Old Witch; ; Report
Also, you otherwise have a fully fleshed out profile, and that's in your favor.
by Cranky Old Witch; ; Report
alright thanks i appreciate it
by metalnerd; ; Report
honestly when someone accepts my request i have no clue what to do next so i dont do anything so i suppose its not a red flag
by metalnerd; ; Report
Tip: Leave a nice comment on their profile. Or a nice comment on a bulletin or blog post. Do not send a private message.
by Cranky Old Witch; ; Report
got it
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