I see you.
I see the intentionally dark and sardonic posts you make.
You're fine! You've always been fine!
Yeah, being young is frustrating as hell. You want your life to begin and it seems that folks are trying to hold you back. That's okay! You still need to time to figure it all out!
The bad news: You never figure it all out.
The good news: You get real comfortable with that!
So, the frustration has you seeking and engaging in the sardonic darkness.
That's great! Wonderful in fact! You're sharing in the depths of emotion that older folks figure kids shouldn't have, mostly because they've FORGOTTEN just how frustrating being young is.
What's more ...
Most of these older folks were dark lil goths or punks or whatever.
I certainly recall 14-year-old metalhead me diving deep into the music, the leather, and the darkness.
I wasn't some BS happy chubby lil cherub, and neither are you no matter HOW much it sometimes feels like OTHER PEOPLE want you to be.
PAY ATTENTION HERE BECAUSE THIS NEXT BIT IS IMPORTANT
I see a number of you talking about and engaging in self harm.
That shit needs to stop and I mean STOP RIGHT THE FUCK NOW!
Aw, hell. I've been there. More of the old folks have been there than they'll admit. Wasn't 'cool' then, and not cool now.
The bad news: Yeah, it's not easy to stop and you may struggle with that for some time to come.
The good news: You're IMPORTANT. I don't mean 'later on you'll become important', I mean RIGHT NOW in this moment you are IMPORTANT! It is IMPERATIVE that you take good care of yourself.
Live with your dark music and themes, and dress, and style! It is a statement of defiance, and LIVING is sometimes much more defiant than anything else.
You're wonderful. Some of you might even comment on this saying: "Noo, I'm not" and try to list a bunch of BS reasons why you think you're not.
Yeah, well, 14-year-old me said the same damn things. Most of those are lies OTHER PEOPLE told you, and you believed other people's BS lies.
So be DEFIANT! Stay DEFIANT! Live DEFIANTLY on your own terms! It is WORTH IT and YOU'RE worth it!
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ππ¦π~Graceβ~ππ¦π
ur literally so cool!!! AAAA
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Thanks, love! I think YOU'RE cooler!
by Cranky Old Witch; ; Report
AW TY X3
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jasper
the urge to start an arguement........
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Speak your peace if you must. No single right answer, so if you have different answers, someone may need to hear it!
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i think i understand where u were coming from with this, and im sure this is helpful to some people. i saw a comment that u left on some1s bulletin saying u "made this for them", with a link to this post. that came off as insensitive because not everyone who struggles with self harm, does because its glorified in alternative culture. for me, it was a coping mechanism to deal with mental distress, and i hurt myself because i felt like it was the only way to make it stop. the person u were replying to made a "intentionally dark and sardonic post". while it couldve been because self harming is glorified in their subculture, you had no way of knowing if they made the post because they thought it would look dark and cool and saying "youre fine, youve always been fine" is so obviously unhelpful if it was a genuine cry for help. you can also see how an alt kid struggling with mental health would not want to listen to an older stranger on the internet tell them that u werent some "bs happy lil cherub", and saying you know exactly what they are going through might be counterproductive.
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Thank you for commenting. Naturally, having been there, I know full well it's a trauma response. But speaking to that as a stranger can be dangerous. The overarching message is just being reminded that you're worth more.
Now, I have had a number of people here and elsewhere comment that it is the message that they needed to hear. At least for today. But I am VERY GLAD you're also here commenting.
No one message is going to be the 'right' message for everyone. That's not the intent, but I am inclined to reach as many as I can. YOUR message can hopefully reach people that mine can't.
So what are your words for thems that engage in self-harm?
by Cranky Old Witch; ; Report
no ofc i wasnt trying to invalidate the overarching message, i was js talking abt the person u replied 2 cuz that looked pretty mean.
thems? ;-; idk
by jasper; ; Report
Hadn't meant it to be, of course! It is for them too. I know it's a broad message, but having replied that same way to others who have said 'wow, thank you, I needed to hear that' let's me know it helps some people.
Naturally, we're all different. And again I say there's never one message for all, and we're all going to 'miss' from time to time.
This, again, is why YOUR message is ALSO important and again why I'm SO GLAD you've stopped by here at the source specifically to bring a FRESH VOICE to this!
Thank you!
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khaotic kayia kock
thank you i needed this
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mitty
this definitely needs to get to the front of the blogs page, especially with the current state of it!
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Thank you :)
I invite you to help be a positive force on spacehey! Share my blog post, or write one, or a bulletin, or even just a comment where it is needed.
You are a being of light. Loving the world can be heartbreaking at times, but it is both addictive and contagious.
It is unfortunate that hate and fear are a kind of contagious that spreads quickly, and sharply, but love is also contagious! It's slower, but it is stronger.
I wish you all the best this morning
by Cranky Old Witch; ; Report
only the best to you aswell! :-)
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