Poly life

So I do the poly thing. Ive been doing this for almost 20 yrs now. I've tried many dynamics and have found that my pref is a closed triad. I would love a husband and a wife but men this isnt an invitation thinking 3sums bout to pop off like that. This isnt a sexcapade to b held for ur entertainment. I move very slow as I want to know u r a good fit for me and a future or current partner. All partners will b equal and I want my husband and wife to also enjoy themselves and involve themselves with each other as husband as wife. There is no room for jealousy, taking sides, or favoritism.  I have chosen this way because after a cpl tries of monogamy I realized I can not solely choose one sex or the other. I love both for many different reasons and I as well as y'all deserve happiness. How can a singlenpartner ever truely b happy if I myself do not feel complete and happy within the relationship? It just wont work. There are many forms of poly but mine exclusively entails that we r a single family unit and aside from there being 3 instead of 2..all the norm relationship expectations apply. There is no stepping outside the relationship, dishonesty, secrets, ect. If u r not happy with one...u leave all.