Why are we like this?

Why are we as a society and as a generation like this?

I honestly do not know if this is just me but I feel like I can't be the only one.

Today me and two of my friends were talking and we somehow started talking about how my wrosts are bigger than theirs. This was a completley innocent and not meaning harm to anyone in any way conversation but it really cut deep.

I've been struggling with the way I see my body for a long period of time. It started of small and I didn't really think of it. This start was when I overheard my grandma talking to my parents and saying something along the lines of "She is a little big", by the way I was around 9 years old when I heard that and it haven't left my mind since.

As you could imagen, hearing anything about yourself at a young age when a lot of things are still new it sticks and won't let go.

Even though this hurt it wasn't a super big deal to me as a kid, I just brushed it off and kept living my life normally. When this really started to kick in was aroung 12 years old. I was way more on TikTok and just socialmedia over all. Since social media is filled with unrealistic bodies that not everyone is capable of looking like but even if you can't you're expected to anyways, a lot of preassure slowly builds up which can turn into hate for your body.

If or when this hate takes over it can cause irreversable damage.

I think you would aggree with me when I say that this is not good for anyone to experience, but then why do our lifes overflow with expectations and bullying if you don't live up to them?
Why are little girls growing up for these expectations to evolve to in some of the worst case scenarios an ed? An ed that could an this little girls life or even after they've gotten help with it never forgets. Never truly leaves it behind. IT follows her like a shadow even if she tries to run away from it the shadow always comes back.

Correct me if I'm wrong but we as a society talks about having a good body image of yourself, encourage body positivity, stop caring about those tiktokers dancing in a pair of low cut jeans and a crop-top showing of their slim, hourglass-shaped waist with their symmetrical face with no imperfections.

But the thing is, even though we encourage body positivity we still also encourage those unrealistic body standards in secret. We dont say it with words, we show it in how we treat ourselfs if we don't live up to them, how we treat eachoter if they dont live up to them.

I hate my body but I say all bodies are beautiful. I hate my body but I say "if Aphrodite, the actual god of beauty, could have stomach rolls you can too and be proud of them. I hate my body but I say I love chubby girls. I hate my body so I just can't takr it anymore.

I hate my body so I need to fix it, I hate how asymmetrical it is so I want surgery to make the eyebrows the same hight up, make my chin as slim as the other, make the eyes look the same size and make my moth straight not diagonal.

We all have our promlems, this is one of mine.