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UHMMMM HI I DON'T REALLY KNOW HOW TO DO THIS BUTTTTT... A LOT has happened to me these past few months, and I'm genuinely really stressed out. I feel like I'm ruining all of my friendships rn, because it seems like they're all getting annoyed of me. I'm not sure what do to, I mean, my best friend is here for me and everything, but I feel like she's getting tired of me as well.
Basically, I feel like I'm being an asshole to everyone around me without knowing it, and I'm scared they're all gonna leave me because of it.
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Megan
That voice in your head, that tells you they don't like you, that you aren't worth it, or that you're small and weak... from my experience, it gives you three options.
1) Succumb to it's narrative, and believe the lie. I do not recommend, -10/10, its literally the worst, and the more you believe it, the stronger it gets. Actually, scratch what I said earlier, you have TWO options (see below), as this is not one of them.
2) Recognize it is a lie, and anytime it pops up, remind yourself that it is a lie, and remind yourself of all the things you like about yourself! You should always be your biggest hype person! You have the power to change your thoughts. It's hard, but 1000% possible.
3) Open yourself up to a bit to some self reflection: is this an opportunity for growth? Is there a way for you to not believe the lie, but use it as a tool to improve some aspect of yourself? As humans we are constantly learning and changing, and part of the process is, unfortunately, self doubt. But we need the self doubt, because it keeps us grounded and humble. The trick is to not let it overwhelm you.
I hope this helps, and I hope you have a lovely day!
THANK YOU THIS IS SO KIND OF YOU!!! You made me feel genuinely better
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yumika
i know exactly how u feel... and honestly? i dont know what the fuck to do about it either. My best friend is still there for me too... sure. but people LIKE her. She's eventually gonna find someone that won't drag her down T-T
I felt so replaced by my friends, we were originally a friend group of 3 and then one of us just invited 10 other people and cast us both out. The other girl found one friend and i found my own and we became a group of 4, but we're still friends with the other girls from the other group. The one who originally cast us out is giving us fucking GLARES though. ugh, i literally hate school lunch cause of it, but i try to ignore her best i can and sometimes i feel like everyone hates me cuz of it.
(im sorry this was a kinda rant btw!!!)
honestly, the best thing u can do is just find another group of friends for urself and move on. if ur friends r making u feel insecure, even when u talk to them about it??? theyre not friends and just drain ur damn energy. Im gonna talk to my "friends" too tmr,,, and at the first hint of hostility?? im out and making my own damn life outta myself. time to move on.. yk?
It's not like I feel insecure talking to them or anything, the current friend group I'm in now is really supportive of me. There is just this thought in the back of my mind that tells me "You're messing everything up, they all hate you." and stuff like that. But I feel you on the best friend thing. I know she's probably gonna read this lmao, but I feel like eventually she will just kinda replace me. I'm praying it's not soon, but I really don't like the idea that I'm making her miserable y'know?
by Mijisia; ; Report
I hope that doesn't happen, u seem like such a nice person I doubt anyone would hate u if that helps :D
lets just hope everything turns for the better for the both of us
by yumika; ; Report
Awe thank you!!!! Yeah I hope nothing bad happens. I talked to one of my friends yesterday and they reassured me that everything is okay and that they think I’m a really cool friend.
by Mijisia; ; Report
Thats awesome!! Glad things r going well then :DD
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