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Honestly, before I got a girlfriend I was sort of struggling to figure out whether or not I was aroace in the first place. I have a really hard time distinguishing between platonic and romantic feelings so even when I was experimenting with situation-ships and stuff, it was still super confusing for me. Anyways, I now have a girlfriend and feel super bad because all we've done is make out with each other, and I feel like I owe her more, and it's not like she's pressuring me AT ALL! She's made it suuuper clear that she doesn't want me to feel pressured and that it's fine for me to take as long as I need. It's just like when we got drunk one night she was talking about how she was jealous that one of the people she works with has a gf that does sexual things with him, and it honestly made me feel like I'm being a shitty gf, and it especially made me feel like I'm not putting in enough work in the relationship. The worst part is that I know she's in love with me but I don't even know if I'm capable of loving someone back in that way and it makes me feel nauseous with guilt. I really don't want to break up with her and I definitely don't think it's necessary for that to happen, I just don't know how to stop feeling guilty and upset when there's no reason to be. Is it normal to feel this way, and if yes it is normal, how do I stop feeling this way?
I want to be a good girlfriend but I'm struggling
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♡‧₊˚amaim
this sounds like a confusing situation :/ i think the best you can do right now is be honest with your gf about how you're feeling about your sexuality
yes! communication is number ZER0. yes before one. you need to talk to her, not us, unfortunately. communicating is so important in a relationship. tell her how you feel, how you feel when she says certain things, and clearly state what you need/want out of a relationship.
remember to always put yourself first and good luck :)
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Thank you all for your suggestions <3 I did end up working things out with her luckily, and things are fine now.
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that’s amazing! glad to hear ;)
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oops i meant regular smiley not winky smiley :)
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