sobbing

as you know, im grounded. i havent said what im grounded for yet tho so here it goes. basically i got caught smoking and sneaking in my boyfriend. not my proudest moment. i got my door taken, as well as my phone and my ipad. ive tried literally everything to get my stuff back and so far i only have my door and its been a week but i cant evn close it during the day, only when i go to sleep. my mom told me that the last thing ill get back is my phone so id say i have about a week left on that. ive been cleaning the whole house, my room, ive also been kissing my moms ass which is literally making me miserable but i know its my fault, actions have consequences i guess. anyways she put me on birth control and everything. i just need help convincing her to let me see my boyfriend for his birthdya. which is in 6 days. what do i do? its gonna be difficult but i think i can do it i just need ideas on what to do. please please please lmk what you guys think i should do. <3