Boundaries are a MUST

hi I'm Resha and I am a black woman from the south.. Currently in school and happy that I will be achieving my goal soon enough. I've never written a blog before. I'm obviously open to it. I am one of those people that love to write no matter what is going on in my life. writing was always a way to let every emotion out. Things that I didn't know I was feeling or could feel. (futuristically). I considered myself a loner for a while only because I didn't give people a chance to get to know the real me. For the longest I thought I had to appeal to peoples needs and wants to have friends. Saying No was one the hardest words I had to say. I still may struggle with saying no. I have a love for helping and being there for people to no end. I use to suffer silently until they were alright. But I wasn't fine, I was miserable trying to fix everybody else's  happiness but my own. Giving everyone else 99 percent  only leaving 1 percent for myself.  But this year I decided NO was my new favorite word. That if I 100 PERCENT did not know, that I wasn't going to check my schedule and I wasn't going to squeeze you into my lazy Saturday mornings or evenings, That I was going to stick up for myself and if I lose people that, that was okay. I told myself that the people who respect my boundaries respect and care for me genuinely, not just when they need me for something.