BANSHEE FRICKIGN SLAPS (also tw: mentions of grooming and abuse)

i've been coming across Banshee's music on my fyp on TikTok and today i went like "okay i'm actually gonna listen to her music" and uhh no regrets cuz hOLY SHIT IT SLAPS like i love it s0 MUCH ;0; and i usually listen to folk-rock btw :0 and the music has such a fantastic message for survivors of abuse. Banshee's harsh screams show that it's okay to show the anger that comes with having survived horrible trauma. and i have survived that kind of trauma myself

not a whole lot of people except for my closest friends know that from ages 16 to 20, i was in an abusive relationship with someone i considered to be my friend. basically what this "friend" did was guilt-trip me whenever i addressed problematic things she had in her fics she'd bring up her "toxic" roommates/friend group who most likely called her out for being a pos. we were both huge fans of the movie The Secret of Kells (i'm still a fan btw) and so she shipped Brendan, the main character, with Brother Aidan (Brendan's mentor) which is all kinds of gross. Aidan is old enough to be Brendan's grandfather and would never harm an innocent boy that way. with her "horror stories" of her former friend group and her being a proshipper, she intimidated me into silence. and then she had the audacity to constantly bully me and talk shit behind my back for having a lot of queer ocs for my sake (like many other queer artists/writers, i project a lot of my experiences onto my characters and it brings me a lot of happiness with that) and not for her own twisted fujoshi/yaoi/proshipping fantasies. for four years i had to deal with this. and i was only a kid

with this in mind, a lot of Banshee's songs take the words i wish i could say to this ex-friend one last time straight out of my mouth. but in the meantime, all i can do is slowly rebuild my life after four years of it being taken away from me by making things for myself and sharing the joy that comes with that with my true best friends