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Ok, so there’s this guy I work with (for confidentiality reasons, we’ll call him Z). We went on a few dates and fooled around a lil bit a couple years ago and haven’t messed around since… but remained cool over the years. I guess we tried to see if there was a connection there, but I ended up ending what we had to go back to an ex (that I’m no longer with). Well at the beginning of August, I was switched from 3rd shift to 1st shift (the shift Z is on). I thought I’d be cool to work on the same shift as him, but I guess not cause feelings.
Ever since I switched shifts and started working closer with this guy, my feelings for him have resurfaced I guess. But over the years of knowing him, I KNOW he’s not good for me! 😩
He has really bad anxiety and depression due to him feeling that him being gay is wrong for like 20+ years. He constantly feels judgement from people which is why he pushes people away. He’s not happy and doesn’t have any hobbies and drinks everyday to forget everything. He also admitted something dark to me a couple years ago when we were first hanging out a lot. He’s been given medicine by doctors, but he says it doesn’t work… so the doctors will suggest therapy, but he won’t go because he “won’t open up”. I even openly call him an asshole sometimes (all in good humor) because he’s mean to others and he knows it.
But when we actually work together at work, we’ll talk (not about anything serious, just work talk) and just the way he looks at me and smiles at me sometimes, I can tell he wants to give me a chance, but he resists on letting me get any further than just friends. I’ll ask him to hangout sometimes outside of work and we do, but it’s like pulling teeth to get him to do something with me.
Like I said before, I know he’s bad for me. I know my worth and I don’t put up with anything that makes me feel any less. I guess the main question is how do I get over someone I’m crushing so hard over and know isn’t good for me but work so close with? I also feel like I’m being selfish and disregarding his feelings because I know why he is the way he is and why he won’t go any further than a friendship, but I keep pushing him to want to do things with me and be with me… but he’s also not saying no to hanging out with me.
It’s complicated
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CosyTea
Is being in a relationship with someone you also work with not a factor for you? Usually that's the issue most people have, but this seems to be more about if you reckon it's worth trying again with this guy.
It might be worth trying to find someone else, I think if you're single and not dating anyone, all you're going to be thinking about is this guy, whereas even if you start looking for someone else it might help you take your mind off things. I know that's helped me in the past, if I've been attracted to someone that I probably shouldn't be then finding someone else to be attracted to instead helps.
I wish I had an answer for a way out that doesn't have to do with finding a partner but at the current moment I got nothing. If you get close to considering going out with this guy again, I would just say think about what happened last time, and if anything is going to change between then and now. If nothing is going to change, then it's not really worth it
Apologies for the late reply.
Being in a relationship with someone I work with isn’t a factor for me. I’ve worked with significant others before and I’ve kept the two separate. My mentality is do your work and get out. Lol.
Yeah, I guess ultimately that’s what I was trying to figure out is if it’s worth trying it out with him again or not.
And you’re right. I’ve started talking to others and that’s taken my mind off of me and him. Follow up with my next blog for the conclusion.
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