Asexual/Aromantic vent

I lowkey hate pride month cuz it makes me feel so invalidated and fake...like I'm not part of the LGBTQ+ community and I'm just trying to push myself into the community for attention. I wish I was just gay, bi, pan, even straight. I've considered conversion therapy a few times now, anything to make me normal and not some loveless freak.

I'm hoping I'm just a latebloomer and that I won't be aroace for the rest of my life. I wanna love, I wanna feel the same feelings everyone else feels, I don't wanna be like this, I don't wanna be me.
And something that hurts most about this feeling is that no one thinks I'm valid enough to feel this way. If I was an allo gay person wanting to 'off' myself for being gay EVERYONE would be all like "don't do it! ur valid! it's ok to be gay!", but if I wanna 'off' myself for being aroace then I'm just ignored, my sexuality isn't real, I'm not oppressed enough to feel this way, I must be seeking attention.


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⁎⁺˳✧༚Elementstone༚✧˳⁺⁎

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Reminder that your identity is COMPLETELY valid. I remember when my mum basically forced me out a few years ago, and I ended up hearing many of these same statements. Several years later, i'm still ace. Anyone in the LGBTQ+ community who echoes these negative sentiments is just as bigoted as any cishet person saying those things. pg. I think something that I personally feel isn't sort of said much is that even if you’re aroace, it's still okay to be in a romantic or sexual relationship if that's what you want. It's about the lack of attraction to people, not your supposed 'inability' to partake in those relationships.


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I agree, not all aromantics and asexuals are completely devoid of romantic and/or sexual attraction- and sometimes you need to experiment to truly know your sexuality.

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aroace people had and always will be part of the lgbt community and if anyone tells you otherwise, don't think you are wrong and blame yourself.
aroaces can love too. in other ways.
you are valid.


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Tysm!

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I just want someone to tell me it'll be okay. I just want someone to remind me that it's okay to be aroace. But no one cares, my problems don't matter and they never did and they never will.
I'm just looking for attention, as always. I don't matter. I'm too weird. I'm too annoying. I'm too rude. I'm too childish. I'm too irresponsible. I'm too "me".
I have nowhere to safely express my feelings, I don't wanna express them on here cuz I don't wanna spam anyone with my vents and rants but I have nowhere else to talk about my feelings and I have no other way to cope.


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